How to Stay in Love

This blog will be a compilation of things that I learned the hard way and things that worked well in my previous marriage.  I was married to my ex husband for 7 years.  6 years were wonderful.  The last year was hell.  And then we separated.

Here's what made the marriage good for 6 years: writing love notes.  People often don't realize how we feel about them until we express it.  Make sure that you say more positive things to your special person then negative things. The best way to make up for any abusive things you may have said to them is to write a Loooong love note about all the things you love about them. :)

Women make sure to try to be content with the material things you already have and don't shop to much.  Before you buy anything ask yourself "Do I really need this?"  Our standards of what we "need" in America are very, very different from any other country.  We think if we have had a shirt for a year it's time for a new shirt, for example, but why?  Be content with less. :) Try letting things last longer. And you don't need a new blanket for your bed every few months.  I know it's tempting, but try to have self-control ladies. ;)

Men, FOCUS on your woman when you are around her.  Don't look at your phone and ignore her.  You have no idea how much that hurts her heart.  It makes it seem like you have no interest in her or what she says at all.  And it's very rude.  If you need "me" time, go out for a drive.  And men, don't look at porn.  If you aren't satisfied with your sex life, Tell her.  Don't just hold it in and look at porn instead.  That's really messed up.

To keep your love alive forever, make sure you hold their hand as much as you can and walk with arms around each other, because that's cute. :)  Hug often.  Drink wine together every few days. :) Don't just let your love die until you only feel like friends.  Try to keep the magic alive the rest of your lives.  Do what couples who are dating do the rest of your lives.  Compliment your special someone.  Men tell your woman she is beautiful as much as you can.  Women, tell your man he is hot and strong etc.  Guys need to hear compliments too. ;)

1 John 4:19 Always remember "We love because he first loved us." We Cannot love the person we are with unless we receive God's love for us.  When you fully realize how Much God loves you, you are then able to fully love another person.  It's not until you really grasp how much God loves you that you can fully love others. :)

The meanest people are the most insecure.  The best cure for insecurity is to pray without ceasing. Work on your relationship with God.  Once you feel like God is your Best friend, you will never be insecure every again.  For real. :)

May God bless you all!