Check out this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MR6n6LFy8tU
The host asks, "Why can't women just say what they need." Ah yes, that is a universal question that men have. Why do women want men to read our minds?
Here is why women have a hard time saying what we need, because we don't want to be rude. We don't want to come off as selfish. Women naturally love to give, so to receive anything is very hard for us. God probably wired us this way to be able to take care of children, who cannot give anything in return.
However, many women give and give to their kids and never ask to receive anything from their husbands, who would be capable of giving to them, and then they burn out or end the marriage etc. It all could have been avoided if the woman would have just been more bold and forward about what she needed and wanted from her husband.
We women think we are supposed to be gentle and meek and not ruffle any feathers. That is how our culture tells us to be. But as is said in the marriage series "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage," sometimes we as women have take what we want. We cannot just hope and expect and pray that the man will figure it out. He won't. YOU HAVE TO TELL HIM. The number one most important word in the English language is communication, because if we cannot communicate what we need, our needs will never be fulfilled. Jesus himself says, "You have not because you ask not." So Jesus and God function the same way as men do?! Imagine that. lol :) We have to ask in order to receive. God can read our minds, unlike men, but he still wants to hear us ask. Men cannot read our minds so therefore it is imperative that we ask if we want something.
This is the main cause of arguments in marriage. A woman thinks the man should intuitively know what she needs. She thinks, "If he really loved me he would just know." Well unfortunately women, no matter how much he loves you, he still will not know what you need or want. You have to say it. His not giving you what you need does not mean he does not love you. It just means he does not have a clue what you want. So tell him. :)
Another reason women do not just say what we want is that we ourselves, ironically, often do not know what we want. Hormones make this very, very confusing for us. Men are confused by women and guess what, women are confused by women too!!! lol. God created a very complex, enigmatic creature when He made woman, and I don't know why. It would be easier if we were all as simple as men can be, but we are not. For whatever reason, God made woman to be mysterious and complex.
Perhaps because God himself is mysterious and complex, and we are made in his image. We cannot figure out God just as much as people universally, men and women, cannot understand women. But it is this complexity that can be attractive. If God could be easily explained, where would the fun in that be? If we knew everything about Him, life wouldn't be as exciting. Sometimes mystery is good. Sometimes not knowing is good and keeps things interesting.
May God help us understand our differences more and more. Peace be with you. :)
However, many women give and give to their kids and never ask to receive anything from their husbands, who would be capable of giving to them, and then they burn out or end the marriage etc. It all could have been avoided if the woman would have just been more bold and forward about what she needed and wanted from her husband.
We women think we are supposed to be gentle and meek and not ruffle any feathers. That is how our culture tells us to be. But as is said in the marriage series "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage," sometimes we as women have take what we want. We cannot just hope and expect and pray that the man will figure it out. He won't. YOU HAVE TO TELL HIM. The number one most important word in the English language is communication, because if we cannot communicate what we need, our needs will never be fulfilled. Jesus himself says, "You have not because you ask not." So Jesus and God function the same way as men do?! Imagine that. lol :) We have to ask in order to receive. God can read our minds, unlike men, but he still wants to hear us ask. Men cannot read our minds so therefore it is imperative that we ask if we want something.
This is the main cause of arguments in marriage. A woman thinks the man should intuitively know what she needs. She thinks, "If he really loved me he would just know." Well unfortunately women, no matter how much he loves you, he still will not know what you need or want. You have to say it. His not giving you what you need does not mean he does not love you. It just means he does not have a clue what you want. So tell him. :)
Another reason women do not just say what we want is that we ourselves, ironically, often do not know what we want. Hormones make this very, very confusing for us. Men are confused by women and guess what, women are confused by women too!!! lol. God created a very complex, enigmatic creature when He made woman, and I don't know why. It would be easier if we were all as simple as men can be, but we are not. For whatever reason, God made woman to be mysterious and complex.
Perhaps because God himself is mysterious and complex, and we are made in his image. We cannot figure out God just as much as people universally, men and women, cannot understand women. But it is this complexity that can be attractive. If God could be easily explained, where would the fun in that be? If we knew everything about Him, life wouldn't be as exciting. Sometimes mystery is good. Sometimes not knowing is good and keeps things interesting.
May God help us understand our differences more and more. Peace be with you. :)
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