How to Not Worry About Cheating

There is an interesting book about dating called "The Rules." It talks about the importance of being confident and seeing your own uniqueness etc. when it comes to dating. The book says that coming off as overly needy will only drive people away. The most attractive quality to both men and women, is confidence. The more a person is insecure, or talks about what they are insecure about, the more others will notice the things that they point out. The key to keeping someone in love with you, is to be confident in yourself. If you feel, about yourself, that you are quite a catch, then they will probably feel that way about you too. Here are some tips on how to not worry so much about if your partner will cheat on you.

Steps

1. Don't be paranoid. Yes people cheat all the time in our modern society, but that doesn't mean you should be paranoid about it. If you get paranoid, it will only make you insecure, overly worried, and controlling, which are all very unattractive qualities.
⦁ The more jealous you may become, and interrogate whoever you are with, the more they won't want to be around you. No one wants someone asking them questions all the time and being suspicious of them. No one wants their partner to not trust them.
⦁ Show them that you think they really are trustworthy, and they will be trustworthy. If you always treat them like they are a cheater, then it might become a "self-fulfilling prophecy." You might create the very thing you were so worried about. You might cause the very thing to happen that you were trying to prevent.

2. Don't look at their phone. The odds are that you will find something to worry about. Just don't go there. If you don't find something suspicious, you will invent something to be suspicious about. Just trust them and let them have the freedom of doing what they want to on their phone. If you are loving them in the way you should, you won't have to worry about them wanting to get away from you. You will be confident that they would want to stay with you.

3. Don't look at their Facebook page too much. You might see girls/guys on their Facebook that comment on their things. This will only make you worry un-necessarily. Try to stay off of each other's Facebook.
⦁ You can also open a new joint Facebook account. Then you will have mutual friends and everyone else on Facebook will know that you are a couple. Post a lot of couple pictures of the two of you so others get the message that they are taken etc.

4. If you are religious, have faith that God will ensure that they stay with you. In some things, we just have to let go and have faith.

5. Do things to prevent cheating. If at all possible, make a general relationship rule that neither of you will have close friends of the opposite sex. This is always the first step in affairs or cheating. The friendship might start out innocent enough, but over time it builds until an affair might happen.
⦁ Also, don't stay friends with ex's. There is no point to do this, and it will only keep your current partner or spouse jealous. Cut all communication with ex boyfriends or girlfriends. You are with a new person now, so you shouldn't need to be talking to that old person.

6. Work on building your relationship with your partner. Show genuine interest in your partner and listen to them. The closer the two of you are, the less likely that other person is to leave you or cheat.
⦁ Talk about your dreams with each other. Have fun and laugh together. Be each other's best friend. Stay unified and on the same page with each other.
⦁ Be open and honest with each other. If you always have open communication, it will be a lot harder for them to hide any secrets from you.

7. If you are married, be intimate often. Sometimes, a lack of intimacy in marriage causes men to look elsewhere. Wives, if you want to prevent your husband from looking elsewhere, you need to be available when they need you in this area.

8. Stay attractive for your mate. Sometimes after kids, you might not look like you did before you had kids, but you can still do things to look attractive.
⦁ Ask your partner what kind of hair styles and clothes they like etc. Take a shower every day. Brush your teeth and floss multiple times a day. Chew gum so you have fresh breath etc. There are many things you can do to stay attractive to your partner.
⦁ The most attractive thing, though, is being a loving and kind person. Don't work on your outside and forget about your inside, as in your heart. Try to be a good person so that they will want to stay with you. Try to be the most loving person you know, and they won't go looking for love anywhere else but with you.

Tips
⦁ Remember to stay confident in yourself.
God bless! :)