People who were former parents make the best lovers, because they know what love is, since they had kids. When I was 25 I met a great guy who was 32 named Roger. He had lost his kids in a divorce due to a drinking problem. He was recovered when I met him, for the most part. We had a beautiful relationship for 2 years, until he died one night from drinking too much. He loved me more then anyone in my life ever has. He taught me what love is more then anyone had. I always knew it was because he was a dad. When I met him he had a girl that was 8 and a boy that was 6. I realized that was why he was so good at loving. He knew what love was, because he was a dad.
I was greatly loved by him, but I did not fully know how to love until I had kids. You have never experienced a greater love feeling until you have kids. History repeats. I am now 36 and I have a slightly younger lover who is 2 years younger. He has never had kids, like I hadn't when I met Roger. I lost my kids in my divorce because I was overly religious, for real. When you marry someone, make sure your in laws are at the same level of faith as you are. If they aren't, they will make your life hell. I am still overly religious and proud of it. :) Eric and I have had a beautiful relationship for a year so far. Hopefully I will never die due to being overly religious, but if the world is about to end, I could get martyred for my faith. I love Eric possibly more then anyone ever loved him, just like Roger loved me more then anyone had, because we were parents so we understood love. My daughters are now 5 and 7. I know that is why I am now finally so good at loving my man, because I know what love is from being a mom.
Roger always wanted to replace the 2 kids he lost to his ex so he was hoping to get me pregnant. He had a vasectomy reversal surgery, but because he was taking testosterone shots, that was killing all of his sperm. Therefore he was unable to get me pregnant. I was pretty depressed about that a whole 2 months before he died. But maybe that happened because once you have kids, you have had that experience, so why do you need to have it again? Just be happy you got to be a parent one time. Now you know how to love better because you were a parent.
What is the reason to have kids anyways? To create a mini me. Other then selfish reasons, there really is no good reason to have kids. It is just a season of life that God gives some people to melt our hearts, and help us learn to love better. Some people need that and others don't.
But if you have a chance to be with a former parent, do it, because they really know how to love. :)
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