No one wants to be stifled by another, or emotionally suffocated. This happens when someone depends on another person to meet every need they have. When they don't have a hobby or anything else to do outside the relationship. Most people have jobs that consume their time and energy, but then that is why they have no room for a relationship.
Ladies, it is good to have a side hobby or a part time job, but not something that will make you forget your mate. In any relationship, you want to need the other person but not too much. We all like to be needed a little bit, but not too much. Women who work all the time and make plenty of their own money intimidate men, because they realize she doesn't really need him.
If we aren't needed at all, we loose interest, because we all want someone who needs us at least a little. But if they need us too much, we are overwhelmed and want to run away. A guy friend told me, "Men are like bunnies. They run away from anyone running quickly in their direction."
If you need someone to buy you every meal you eat, they will get annoyed. But if you need them to buy you a meal just once in awhile, they will like that. If they are the only person you have to talk to, they will get annoyed. But if you just need to talk every once in a while, they will like that.
We all only have so much to give. Some people can give more then others, or are willing to give more then others, but no one is willing to give everything to you. Learn to be content with what you can get from them.
A lot of relationships end because one person feels that the other person isn't giving enough. They are dissatisfied and discontent.
This is why cheating happens. People chase others hoping that they will give them more, but what if they don't? What if they give you even less? Then you should have just stayed where you were right?
No matter who you chase after, only God can meet all your needs. Look to him first, before you look to anyone else. Then you won't stifle anyone. :) God bless.
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