We all need to take a time out for ourselves to think and to heal. So many people rush through life and never take time to relax, to just think and reflect. Then they wonder why their lives are so messed up and they always feel so stressed. It is because they never assess what they do and why they do what they do and how they can do things differently. When things go wrong in a relationship, it is good to take an inventory of everything you did and said in the past. So often people just blame the other person, but it takes two to tango. What did you do? What did you say? When you look at the past, you can't change what the other person did, but you can change yourself and try to not make the same mistakes you made in the future. Look in the mirror. Take time to really know yourself and try to better yourself after a break up.
We like to shift the blame onto others so that we Won't look at ourselves. It is a lot easier to judge someone else then to judge yourself. It is more comfortable, because we know there is nothing we can do about the other person. When our focus is on them, it takes the focus off of ourselves and we don't worry about changing ourselves. But how did you hurt them? Did you cause them to hurt you? Did something you said aggravate them?
No matter what happened, time can heal almost all wounds. Eventually you forget the pain of a hurt, with time. When someone cuts you in some way, emotionally, it hurts a lot at first. It is like having a paper cut that is very painful. You can cover it with a band aid, but it will still need time to heal. You might try to distract yourself from the pain by drinking or watching movies or TV. Have faith that with time, the wounds will heal.
When you love someone a lot, they can cut you deeper then anyone else can. They can hurt you more then anyone else can. This is why so many choose to not fall in love, because they are Smart. :) Love can be very painful. There isn't much you can do about the pain except give it time to heal. So often people don't give themselves time to heal after a relationship. They just jump from one relationship to the next and make all the same mistakes over and over again. They wonder why none of their relationships work out. It is because they do not give themselves time to heal and reflect. What went wrong? Why did it go wrong? What do I really want?
I have confused about 5 guys over the past 3 years because I cannot figure out what I want. I don't know if I want another child or not. I just can't make up my mind. There are pros and cons to not having another kid, and I have no idea which would be better. I am a bit gun shy, as they say, because my last attempt at a family blew up in my face as if I was standing over a stick of dynamite. So obviously I would be hesitant to try to make kids with anyone else now. Part of me really wants a family again, but finding the right person to raise a family with is so hard. You have to know that you can trust each other, and unfortunately, there aren't many trustworthy people out there now. Most people these days are extremely selfish. They don't care about you at all because their hearts are so hard and callous. As the Bible says, "In the last days people will be lovers of themselves." Everyone now just loves themselves, so they won't and can't love you. It is a sad world we live in now for sure.
God loves you! May God heal your heart from any wounds and give yourself time to heal. You will feel better soon. This too shall pass.
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