Here are some quotes from the MOST beneficial book that I EVER read, "Speaking the Truth in Love: How to Be an Assertive Christian." It talks about the importance of being not passive or aggressive but rather assertive, as Jesus was. Amen. :) The middle ground is always ideal. Balance is key, with our emotions and social interactions especially.
Book Quotes:
"If you focus on passages about humility, your spiritual vision may become too blurred to see the passages that urge you to value yourself as God does, to take hold of your life and be responsible for your choices, and to be bold and courageous." Amen!
"While passive and aggressive efforts at problem solving tend to focus on people, assertive efforts focus on the problem and the process of understanding its cause as well as its impact and meaning for the people involved."
"When you think truthfully about the people and events in your life, you'll probably experience less anxiety. You then have the ability to think clearly and to challenge some of your untruthful, irrational beliefs and self-messages."
"In some situations it's very appropriate to choose anger or sadness. But human beings are not reactive robots who have no control over what they do. They are thinking, feeling, processing beings who are capable of exercising control over their own behavior. And that gives hope, because it means you CAN change the way you react in certain situations in you're unhappy with the way you behave." Amen!
If you like these quotes then maybe buy the book on Amazon. It's a great book that will benefit all of your relationships for the rest of your life! "Speaking the Truth in Love: How to Be an Assertive Christian" By Ruth Koch and Kenneth Haugk. :)
May God bless ya'll!
Saturday, April 23, 2016
Be Affected or Affect Others
Every day we can make a decision, will we let others determine how our day will go, or will we determine how our own day will go and possibly those around us? Will we let the bad mood of others ruin our day, or will we try to brighten everyone around us with our own good mood?
Some people act like life is floating down a lazy river. They just jump on a inner tube and sit and wait for things to happen around them. Then when they get their inner tube flipped over they get mad and wonder why it happened. It's because if you don't take initiative on things, things you don't want to happen, WILL happen. "Eat or be eaten" really is how the world works.
We can either passively let everyone else affect us, make decisions for us, and then get frustrated when we don't get anything we want. Or we can take life by the horns and do things that we want to do.
We can either let others determine our future or we can determine our own future, with God's help of course. But don't let others tell you what God is supposedly telling them to tell you. Seek God for yourself on what great plans he has for you. God DOES speak to us. Jesus said, "My sheep hear my voice." If you are one of his sheep, you WILL hear his voice, for yourself.
On any given day, instead of letting others affect your mood for the day, how about you affect other people's moods? Instead of letting some jerk cutting you off in traffic ruin your whole day or steal your joy, why don't you compliment a few people and brighten their day? Rather than be affected, affect others with love. Don't just be a victim and let others bring you down, focus on bringing others up. Focus on others, not yourself.
Either you can float down life on an inner tube in a lazy river, or you can get off the darn inner tube and start walking against the current. Stop being passive and lazy and make things happen, because if you don't, you might just end up hating your entire life. You might one day look back and only have regrets, because you never made anything happen that you wanted to make happen.
Don't be lazy in life. If you want something, go get it. If you want to write, write. If you want be a dancer or something, dance. If you want to go back to school, then go. Don't wait to let other people determine what you will or won't do. If you want something, do it. Get it done. Don't wait for someone to hand your dream to you. Either you have to make your dream happen, or it won't happen. As Thoreau said, "I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately." Live life deliberately. Don't float through life, walk upstream and get the things you want. You can't fulfill your God given destiny if you don't put forth any effort to achieve it.
God bless
Some people act like life is floating down a lazy river. They just jump on a inner tube and sit and wait for things to happen around them. Then when they get their inner tube flipped over they get mad and wonder why it happened. It's because if you don't take initiative on things, things you don't want to happen, WILL happen. "Eat or be eaten" really is how the world works.
We can either passively let everyone else affect us, make decisions for us, and then get frustrated when we don't get anything we want. Or we can take life by the horns and do things that we want to do.
We can either let others determine our future or we can determine our own future, with God's help of course. But don't let others tell you what God is supposedly telling them to tell you. Seek God for yourself on what great plans he has for you. God DOES speak to us. Jesus said, "My sheep hear my voice." If you are one of his sheep, you WILL hear his voice, for yourself.
On any given day, instead of letting others affect your mood for the day, how about you affect other people's moods? Instead of letting some jerk cutting you off in traffic ruin your whole day or steal your joy, why don't you compliment a few people and brighten their day? Rather than be affected, affect others with love. Don't just be a victim and let others bring you down, focus on bringing others up. Focus on others, not yourself.
Either you can float down life on an inner tube in a lazy river, or you can get off the darn inner tube and start walking against the current. Stop being passive and lazy and make things happen, because if you don't, you might just end up hating your entire life. You might one day look back and only have regrets, because you never made anything happen that you wanted to make happen.
Don't be lazy in life. If you want something, go get it. If you want to write, write. If you want be a dancer or something, dance. If you want to go back to school, then go. Don't wait to let other people determine what you will or won't do. If you want something, do it. Get it done. Don't wait for someone to hand your dream to you. Either you have to make your dream happen, or it won't happen. As Thoreau said, "I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately." Live life deliberately. Don't float through life, walk upstream and get the things you want. You can't fulfill your God given destiny if you don't put forth any effort to achieve it.
God bless
On Idolizing Others, One's Self or Emotions
Often times people like to play the victim. Sometimes people say that others "make them" feel a certain way. But the fact is, we all chose to feel what we feel. No one can actually make you feel anything. Only you can control your own thoughts and feelings. Things may happen, but how we chose to respond is ultimately our own decision.
Ultimately if others make us mad a lot it is because we are idolizing them. People should not affect us that much. Only God should have an ultimate affect on us. When we idolize others, we let them affect us way more than they should. Don't let people be your god, let God be your God.
We can also tend to idolize our own feelings. We can focus way too much on how we feel about something, which is ultimately idolizing ourselves. If you always only think about how you are feeling, you are your own idol.
Or if you always think about how another person is feeling, they are your idol. It's good to be sensitive, but our thoughts should remain on God and what he wants, rather than what we want or what others want.
Some people also tend to idolize anger. They would rather feel angry than depressed, as they might feel otherwise, so they allow themselves to become angry about every little thing. This is because they are addicted to anger, to the energy that anger gives them. They have not learned the benefits of peace. Peace may seem boring, but obviously in the end, it is better.
So don't idolize others by focusing too much on them. Don't idolize yourself and your own feelings to much. And don't idolize anger or any other negative emotion too much. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus "and the things of this earth will grow strangely dim, in the light of his glory and grace." Amen.
May God bless ya'll! :)
Ultimately if others make us mad a lot it is because we are idolizing them. People should not affect us that much. Only God should have an ultimate affect on us. When we idolize others, we let them affect us way more than they should. Don't let people be your god, let God be your God.
We can also tend to idolize our own feelings. We can focus way too much on how we feel about something, which is ultimately idolizing ourselves. If you always only think about how you are feeling, you are your own idol.
Or if you always think about how another person is feeling, they are your idol. It's good to be sensitive, but our thoughts should remain on God and what he wants, rather than what we want or what others want.
Some people also tend to idolize anger. They would rather feel angry than depressed, as they might feel otherwise, so they allow themselves to become angry about every little thing. This is because they are addicted to anger, to the energy that anger gives them. They have not learned the benefits of peace. Peace may seem boring, but obviously in the end, it is better.
So don't idolize others by focusing too much on them. Don't idolize yourself and your own feelings to much. And don't idolize anger or any other negative emotion too much. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus "and the things of this earth will grow strangely dim, in the light of his glory and grace." Amen.
May God bless ya'll! :)
Job List
Here's all the jobs I've had for the last 17 years for any interested. This kinda shows how picky I can be when it comes to work. I'm always searching for the perfect job, which I know doesn't exist, but I still always think the next one will be perfect or at least better lol. But it also shows how many friends I've made along the way of life, which has been great! I love all of you that I have gotten to work with! You're all great! :) And this long list also shows how old I am lol. I'm 31 and I've been working since I was 14.
My first job at 14 was as a summer camp counselor at Carden Heights of Orange. That was a ton of fun. I realized in that job that I am great with kids. Pool days were always fun. I became a human jungle gym in the water with kids climbing all over me lol. And almost every day we watched a Goofy Movie in the afternoon. The kids LOVED that movie.
My second job at 15 was at Petco. I enjoyed that a lot since I've always been an animal lover big time! I was in charge of the rodent department and cashiering. :)
My third job at 16 was at Cold stone. That was fun for the most part. Ice cream has always been my favorite food and we got to sing silly songs sometimes which was fun.
My fourth job at 18 was at Office Depot. I stayed there till I was about 21 actually and loved my co workers there so much! It really felt like a family there.
Then I worked as a tutor at tutoring centers and driving to student's homes for junior high math and SAT tutoring in writing and reading. I also did house cleaning during this time when I was in college.
After college I had three jobs at once actually, at Barnes and Noble, Mervyn's (which is like Target kinda) and a tutoring center/after school care center with grade school kids. Those were all lots of fun. :)
Then I worked as a summer camp counselor with junior high students and got to go to water parks and Disneyland for free. That was awesome!
Then I was a Junior high English teacher for a year at the same school as my first job at 14, Carden Heights of Orange. I also helped with the after school care there. There were lots of great kids at that school and it was tons of fun. :)
Then I worked at a summer camp again as a counselor and this time in charge of 4th graders.
Then I worked at a preschool for the first time, in charge of one year olds, then two year olds and then as a floater covering breaks in all the rooms, infants through kindergarten. That gave me amazing and wonderful experience for now having kids and knowing how to watch over kids at their different stages of learning. I learned a LOT from the women I worked with and a huge THANK YOU to all of them! I wouldn't be the mom I am today if I hadn't worked with all those great women! Every girl/woman who plans to have kids should work at a preschool for awhile to be the best prepared for being a mom. There is no better place to train for the most important job of your life, motherhood! Amen.
Then I worked on a cruise ship watching the kids. Ages 3 to 7, or 7 to 12, or 13 to 18. For a month on Mexico cruises and 3 months on the Alaska cruise. I have done the Alaska cruise 12 times lol. The first couple times it was cool. After that it got kinda old cause the sun almost never comes out in Alaska, which was very depressing. :( Especially hard for me being from sunny, Southern Cali. lol My favorite age group was the 7 to 12 year olds. Pictionary and Charades were always tons and tons of fun to play with them. The high school age group was kinda difficult, which made me realize my goal of teaching high school was probably not a good goal for me. :)
My next jobs were at various pre-schools. I kept having really hard kids in each class so I tried different pre-schools. All it takes is one kid in each class to make all the kids go crazy really, which is always a big challenge.
Then I delivered pizza for pizza hut. Which was actually the most money I've made at any job. You make minimum wage plus at least $10 an hour in tips. That was awesome!
Then I worked at Applebee's as a waitress and then Chili's and a Christian bookstore. Those were all fun. :)
Then I worked at a call center for student loans. That was interesting. It was pretty awesome making $16 an hour to just sit and talk on the phone for sure!
Then I worked at another pre-school and now waitressing again. :)
And that has been all my job experiences. I'm glad I got to have so many awesome experiences with so many awesome people and great kids. I loved all my jobs and all my co workers and bosses. I'm sure I will have many more great jobs to come in the future. yay! :) Being a substitute teacher might be my next job goal actually. That should be interesting. :)
May God bless yall!
My first job at 14 was as a summer camp counselor at Carden Heights of Orange. That was a ton of fun. I realized in that job that I am great with kids. Pool days were always fun. I became a human jungle gym in the water with kids climbing all over me lol. And almost every day we watched a Goofy Movie in the afternoon. The kids LOVED that movie.
My second job at 15 was at Petco. I enjoyed that a lot since I've always been an animal lover big time! I was in charge of the rodent department and cashiering. :)
My third job at 16 was at Cold stone. That was fun for the most part. Ice cream has always been my favorite food and we got to sing silly songs sometimes which was fun.
My fourth job at 18 was at Office Depot. I stayed there till I was about 21 actually and loved my co workers there so much! It really felt like a family there.
Then I worked as a tutor at tutoring centers and driving to student's homes for junior high math and SAT tutoring in writing and reading. I also did house cleaning during this time when I was in college.
After college I had three jobs at once actually, at Barnes and Noble, Mervyn's (which is like Target kinda) and a tutoring center/after school care center with grade school kids. Those were all lots of fun. :)
Then I worked as a summer camp counselor with junior high students and got to go to water parks and Disneyland for free. That was awesome!
Then I was a Junior high English teacher for a year at the same school as my first job at 14, Carden Heights of Orange. I also helped with the after school care there. There were lots of great kids at that school and it was tons of fun. :)
Then I worked at a summer camp again as a counselor and this time in charge of 4th graders.
Then I worked at a preschool for the first time, in charge of one year olds, then two year olds and then as a floater covering breaks in all the rooms, infants through kindergarten. That gave me amazing and wonderful experience for now having kids and knowing how to watch over kids at their different stages of learning. I learned a LOT from the women I worked with and a huge THANK YOU to all of them! I wouldn't be the mom I am today if I hadn't worked with all those great women! Every girl/woman who plans to have kids should work at a preschool for awhile to be the best prepared for being a mom. There is no better place to train for the most important job of your life, motherhood! Amen.
Then I worked on a cruise ship watching the kids. Ages 3 to 7, or 7 to 12, or 13 to 18. For a month on Mexico cruises and 3 months on the Alaska cruise. I have done the Alaska cruise 12 times lol. The first couple times it was cool. After that it got kinda old cause the sun almost never comes out in Alaska, which was very depressing. :( Especially hard for me being from sunny, Southern Cali. lol My favorite age group was the 7 to 12 year olds. Pictionary and Charades were always tons and tons of fun to play with them. The high school age group was kinda difficult, which made me realize my goal of teaching high school was probably not a good goal for me. :)
My next jobs were at various pre-schools. I kept having really hard kids in each class so I tried different pre-schools. All it takes is one kid in each class to make all the kids go crazy really, which is always a big challenge.
Then I delivered pizza for pizza hut. Which was actually the most money I've made at any job. You make minimum wage plus at least $10 an hour in tips. That was awesome!
Then I worked at Applebee's as a waitress and then Chili's and a Christian bookstore. Those were all fun. :)
Then I worked at a call center for student loans. That was interesting. It was pretty awesome making $16 an hour to just sit and talk on the phone for sure!
Then I worked at another pre-school and now waitressing again. :)
And that has been all my job experiences. I'm glad I got to have so many awesome experiences with so many awesome people and great kids. I loved all my jobs and all my co workers and bosses. I'm sure I will have many more great jobs to come in the future. yay! :) Being a substitute teacher might be my next job goal actually. That should be interesting. :)
May God bless yall!
Money
The trick with money is to value it without loving it. It's pretty easy to be on either extreme. Just like hoarders and tossers are with stuff, people tend to either hoard money and love it too much or toss it and throw money away essentially on pointless things and not value it. The second has always been my problem. In not wanting to love money I under-valued it. Money should be used as a TOOL to survive, pay off debt, and show love to others. Don't put it on a shelf... and worship it. Use money as a tool.
It's important to value money, to not just throw it away, but don't love it either. As Jesus said "you cannot love both God and money." We either love God OR we love money.
The way to know what you love more is ask yourself which one do you think about more? Money or God? If you think about money more than God, then money is your god.
Be careful of that. For "the love of money is the root of all evil" and many have "wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows" due to a love of money. And yes I think that verse means they lost their salvation because they decided to love God more than money.
Money doesn't provide for you. God does. Never forget that. Don't focus on the money in life, focus on God, and the money will follow. "Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you." Amen.
God bless!
The way to know what you love more is ask yourself which one do you think about more? Money or God? If you think about money more than God, then money is your god.
Be careful of that. For "the love of money is the root of all evil" and many have "wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows" due to a love of money. And yes I think that verse means they lost their salvation because they decided to love God more than money.
Money doesn't provide for you. God does. Never forget that. Don't focus on the money in life, focus on God, and the money will follow. "Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you." Amen.
God bless!
4 Key Things
The four things that can make anyone have a bad day is if you let yourself get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. H.A.L.T. is a good acronym to remember those four key things.
For me if I'm hungry I eat, obviously. But that's why I snack mostly rather than have big meals so I never get too hungry. Also that's better for the metabolism, to eat frequent small amounts.
If I get angry I turn on fun music and that usually fixes it or watch a funny show to distract my mind.
If I'm lonely I text my mom, best friend or my hubby. :)
And if I'm tired, I nap or have some tea or coffee if the kids aren't sleeping. Caffeine always gets me in a better mood, and tea or coffee are more healthy that eating sugar to feel more alert. :)
And those solutions to those four problems generally keep me in a good mood most of the day.
It's good to always remember that the better you take care of yourself, the better you can take care of everyone else around you. Amen.
May God bless you all!
Sunday, April 10, 2016
Jobs
Can't believe I haven't written a blog in a month. I have been crazy busy working so that's why. Last week I literally worked 40 hours at a sushi restaurant by me waitressing and bartending.
Since I have recently mastered the art of bartending, I felt inspired to write about all the different jobs I've had. Actually I didn't master the art of bartending quite yet; I still have a ton to learn, which is one reason why I enjoy my new job of bartending. I love learning new things and new jobs.
When I was younger one of my favorite shows on TV was one called "The Pretender." In it the main actor did a new job every episode. Watching that show made one of my life goals to do almost every job that a person could do. Next on my list are pilot, lawyer and counselor. But so far I have been a: camp counselor, tutor, cruise ship children's worker, junior high teacher, after school care giver, study hall supervisor, cashier, waitress at Applebee's, a steak house and a sushi restaurant, bookstore clerk, student loan call center representative, Coldstone ice cream store clerk, retail/sales clerk, nanny, babysitter, and now bartender. That is a LOT of new jobs that I had to learn. But since I enjoy learning new things so much, I really enjoyed learning all those new jobs.
My number one favorite job was working on a cruise ship with children. The cruise to Mexico was the most fun and Alaska was awesome too. :) If you are single and young try doing that job. It's great! I'm so glad that I had that experience for sure!
My number two favorite job was as a summer camp counselor. Also try to do that at some point in your life if you can, especially in Orange County, CA because you get to go everywhere fun for free like Disneyland, water parks and zoos etc. That was so cool!
My number three favorite job would actually have to be bartending. It's exciting learning new drinks and being around people having fun and talking. It can be a bit stressful though if you don't know how to make a new drink or have never heard of an alcohol that someone wants, but overall it's tons of fun. :) It may seem odd that a Christian would want to be a bartender, but us Christians always forget that Jesus drank wine very often. It is not alcohol itself that is evil, only the abuse of it, just like with anything.
And the next job I hope to do besides bartending is become a real estate agent. I just have to pass the test. I get two more tries at passing it. Tomorrow is try number two. Pray for me please! That would be a really fun and a great job to have too I think, since I could mostly work from home and be around my kids a lot still.
May God bless ya'll! And if you are any of my friends from past jobs reading this, I love you all and am so glad that I got to work with you all! :)
Since I have recently mastered the art of bartending, I felt inspired to write about all the different jobs I've had. Actually I didn't master the art of bartending quite yet; I still have a ton to learn, which is one reason why I enjoy my new job of bartending. I love learning new things and new jobs.
When I was younger one of my favorite shows on TV was one called "The Pretender." In it the main actor did a new job every episode. Watching that show made one of my life goals to do almost every job that a person could do. Next on my list are pilot, lawyer and counselor. But so far I have been a: camp counselor, tutor, cruise ship children's worker, junior high teacher, after school care giver, study hall supervisor, cashier, waitress at Applebee's, a steak house and a sushi restaurant, bookstore clerk, student loan call center representative, Coldstone ice cream store clerk, retail/sales clerk, nanny, babysitter, and now bartender. That is a LOT of new jobs that I had to learn. But since I enjoy learning new things so much, I really enjoyed learning all those new jobs.
My number one favorite job was working on a cruise ship with children. The cruise to Mexico was the most fun and Alaska was awesome too. :) If you are single and young try doing that job. It's great! I'm so glad that I had that experience for sure!
My number two favorite job was as a summer camp counselor. Also try to do that at some point in your life if you can, especially in Orange County, CA because you get to go everywhere fun for free like Disneyland, water parks and zoos etc. That was so cool!
My number three favorite job would actually have to be bartending. It's exciting learning new drinks and being around people having fun and talking. It can be a bit stressful though if you don't know how to make a new drink or have never heard of an alcohol that someone wants, but overall it's tons of fun. :) It may seem odd that a Christian would want to be a bartender, but us Christians always forget that Jesus drank wine very often. It is not alcohol itself that is evil, only the abuse of it, just like with anything.
And the next job I hope to do besides bartending is become a real estate agent. I just have to pass the test. I get two more tries at passing it. Tomorrow is try number two. Pray for me please! That would be a really fun and a great job to have too I think, since I could mostly work from home and be around my kids a lot still.
May God bless ya'll! And if you are any of my friends from past jobs reading this, I love you all and am so glad that I got to work with you all! :)
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