Tuesday, December 31, 2019

Invest in People More then Money


God is always a way maker, miracle worker and a light in the darkness.  When your life is dark, look to God, and the light will shine again in your life.  Amen praise God! :)

Never give up hope.  There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.  I am very excited about a baby I might start babysitting soon.  That will be fun. :) Pray for me that it will work out.  Thanks all! And there is another family I might do nany work for soon.  God is good.

Just because one job doesn't work out, another one will.  Never give up.  Just because one relationship doesn't work, another one will.  There are plenty of fish in the sea.  God put many people on the earth so we will always have options, but if you get a great person to be with, hold on to them, treat them great and never give them up.

I praise God for my wonderful fiance who I love very, very much.  God can always send angels in your life when you need them most.  My fiancé has been a huge angel in my life recently. Just ask God for an angel and he will send you one.  "You have not because you ask not."  God will always make a way for you if you just stay in faith.

Thank you God for making a way for me to work and still see my love.  Thank you for always giving me purpose to my life.  I praise you for all the opportunities I have had in my life.  Thank you for all the open doors you have given me God!

Just because a door closes that doesn't mean it's the end for you.  God is Not done with you.  God is never done with you. There is always something for you to do and people to help and serve.  God always has work for you to do if you want it.  So many people now struggle with depression.  I think that's because they think their life is over just because one door closed for them.  They stay stuck in their past and always look at what failed.  But just because you don't succeed in one thing, dust yourself off, get back up and try again with something different.

I was pretty discouraged for awhile that a teaching job didn't work out for me.  But I just have to have peace that that isn't what God has for me at this time in my life.  We have plans for our life, but God might have different plans for your life.  Don't be so stubborn in trying to make your plans work.  Be open to whatever God wants you to do or wherever he wants you to go.

When it comes to work, don't sacrifice time with those you love just to make more money.  God will always provide for you.  Just trust him.  Often times people work because they actually want to hide from their families. I have seen this many times, mainly with women. They want to escape their home life and their families because they are scared.  It's easier to have co-workers who are more shallow friends then deep personal connections with your spouse or kids, so they run away to that.  Don't be one of those people.  Don't run away from your family for work.  In the end, time with those you love is all that matters, not how much money you made.  Money almost always flies away just like that, but people can stay in your life forever.  Invest in people more then you do in making tons of money.  You might feel like money will be there for you when you need it, but it won't be as much as the people you care about and who care about you will be.  Invest in people more then you invest in money. And you will have a much happier life.  :)

May God bless you all!

Monday, December 30, 2019

More Prayers

God please open a door for me with some great nanny jobs.  I pray that whatever works out that I'll be happy with it.  And I pray when the time comes for me and Josh to need an apartment or a rent house that we will get the best possible one for us. Thank you Lord. :)

God why did my mom have to marry two child molestors in a row? Why did you give me the mom that you did and the dad and step dad that you did? Why is it that my first dad had to ruin my child hood and the second dad had to ruin my adult hood?  But it's not totally ruined is it? I know it's not.  I have never been happier in my life as I am now with Josh, so thank you for him God.  He is wonderful. I couldn't have gotten a better man then him. I love him very, very, very much!

I'm sorry God that I wan't the best parent that I could have been to my girls.  I'm sorry I didn't hug my girls more when I had them with me.  I'm sorry I had them watch so much stupid TV. So much time was wasted watching dumb shows.  I'm sorry I followed in the path of how my mom was with me and neglected them as much as I did. I should have tried talking to them more.  I'm sorry I wasn't more attentive to them and also to my ex husband.  Help me to do better with the man I have now.  Help me to do better with any future kids you let me watch over.  I pray that you will send new kids in my life so I won't miss my daughters as much.  I promise to do better with the next groups of kids you let me watch over.

Help me to be wiser and less selfish God. I have been so selfish for so long.  I have always been wanting to buy to much stuff.  My focus has been on stuff rather then people for too long.  I was always thinking about what I wanted rather then what others wanted. Help me to take the focus off myself and serve and love others more. Help me to be more selfless God. I want to be used by you.  Help me to be used well by you.  I'm sorry for not being selfless in the past.  I'm sorry for complaining about great gifts that you gave me, like my awesome house.  I'm sorry I wasn't more greatful for it.  Forgive me for my ingratitude. I am very greatful for everything in my life now.  Thank you for blessing me so much God. :) I am thankful. :)

And God, if you could open a door for me to see my daughters again soon, I would appreciate it. :) Thank you.

My Prayer

God I miss my daughters.  I miss them a lot.  And I miss Josh when he goes to work.  I wish I could be with him 24/7.  I wish I could hug my daughters again.  It has been so long.  I wish Bryan would find a lady and that Ben could find a lady so they won't be lonely anymore.  I want to live with my brother so I can always have him and Meka to talk to.  I miss getting to hang out with my brother Nate. I want to work with Meka and get a real career job. I'm tired of having simple jobs.  I want a real job.  I want to go to church with them.  I pray that me and Josh can have more friends someday but thank you God that we have each other. Thank you that we are both the perfect friend for each other.

I need you today and always.  Help me to not smoke God.  Help me to stay healthy. Help me to take good care of my body and mind. Thank you for a sound mind today God. Help me to not be afraid.  I keep dreading getting a notice to vacate on my door. But now I have the hope of an awesome apartment in Belton for Josh and I to move into.  I love that it's by another great river path that we can ride our bikes on.  It's a bit cold for that now though lol.  So I'm ok with waiting on getting that apartment for a couple months.  I pray we can stay here in this house through the winter.

Please sustain Josh at work.  Help him to enjoy his job a lot, but I pray that his hours will be short. Thank you for him and for all the fun we have together.  Thank you for our 4 days off together and all the hiking and bike riding fun we had.  Please give me wisdom God on when you want me to work again and where.  I would really like to work at Mary Hardin Baylor doing something.  I pray you will open a door there when the timing is right God.  I pray for favor and direction.  Please lead me to the best job there for me.   Thank you for that.

I pray that the divorce with Ben will run smoothly.  It makes me sad but it's probably necessary.  It stressed me out a lot to be with guys who seemed close to dying with so many health issues, Ben and then Bryan.  But I pray that you will help them to endure their health issues with wisdom and a good attitude.  It was hard for me to not get angry at them for their health issues because Ben's were from 20 years of smoking and Bryan's were from eating horrible junk food his whole life.  But God please help them both to be strong enough to be good and wise dads for their kids.

And God thank you for sending me a healthy young stallion in Josh. :)  He is great!  I have never ever been so in love with anyone in my life. I cherish him SO much and I appreciate him so much.  I love that we both care about eating healthy and taking good care of our bodies.  I love his wisdom and intelligence. I am enamored and enthralled by him 24/7.  I am greatly attracted to him mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically.  Thank you God for how awesome he is. And for how well we mesh together.  I could not have asked for more then him.  He is perfect.  I love love the color of his skin, how he naturally looks tan.  I love his kind eyes and his soft hair.  I love his smile and his cute dimples.  I love his voice and how manly it is.  He is the hottest man I have ever seen or been around. Thank you God for how wonderful he is!  He is by far your best present to me ever! :) And I believe he is an angel you sent to me to be my best lover and friend ever. :)

Help me to have your peace today God.  Help me to just rest in you God.  Thank you for all your gifts to me.  All the ways you have blessed me throughout my life.  God you're so good to me! I have been the most blessed person I have ever known, generally.  Thank you for blessing me as much as you have God!  But help me to heal from my wounds and losses.  Thank you God that your grace is sufficient to get me through every doorway of my life.  Help me to have your joy in the midst of sad situations.  Thank you God that you Will work all this for good in the end.  I praise you God. :) Thank you for everything.  :)

I am blessed.  I am called. I am healed.  I am whole.  I am anointed and filled with your power.  Thank you God! :)

Tuesday, December 24, 2019

Jealousy

My whole life I have had people try to cut me down due to jealousy.  When people have things that are better then you, don't hate them for it, try to be happy for them.  If I see someone with a better car then me, I realize it's completely useless to be jealous and hate them for it.  Where will that get me?  Nowhere.  If I want to work two jobs to get that car, then I can, but if I choose not to, then that's my choice.

I feel like people have tried to cut me down my whole life due to jealousy.  That has caused me to hold back in a lot of situations.  I performed less then I could have simply because I didn't want others to be jealous of me.  Jealousy can be a killer.  In the Bible, Cain killed Able due to jealousy.  Watch out for those who are extremely jealous of you, but pray for them, that God will bless them just as much as he has blessed you.

If we do the things that deserve blessings, we will be blessed.  But if we don't, then we won't. It's that simple really.  Rather then being jealous of those around you who are being blessed, live your life in such a way that you too will be blessed.  If you do what is right, God WILL bless you.  If you are nice and honest to people, you will be blessed.  If you aren't, then you won't be.  We reap what we sow.  When we sow kindness, we reap kindness.  When we sow working hard for others, then others will work hard for us.  When we sow good things, we reap good things.  So many people only sow bad things and then only reap bad things. Then they are jealous of all those around them who are reaping good things.  Well, sow good things if you want to reap good things.  It's simple.

If you are jealous of someone, don't waste your life hating them. Do what they did so you can be blessed to.

May God bless you all. :)

Friday, December 20, 2019

I Will Not Fear :)

Here are the best thoughts from a Joyce Meyer sermon titled "I Will Not Fear."


The only response any Christian should have to fear is, "I Will Not Fear." Amen :)

Fear is actually us putting faith in what Satan says to us. Yep.

"You did not receive a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind."

Just because worry comes for a visit that doesn't mean you should invite it in to stay all day. Amen!

With fear you have the Option to let it rule you or you can rule over it.

We need to get just as determined to have good things as the devil is determined to give us bad things.

You have to make the decision "I Will Not Fear."

When you feel fear, don't run.

Satan will do to you whatever you will put up with. Yep!

Be determined to say "Jesus died for me to have a good life and I'm going to have a good life." Amen!

Are you sure that God is for you? He is for you not because you are good, but because He is Good.  Amen. :)

You can feel fear but don't give in to it.

When you fully know how Much God loves you, you will have a lot Less fear. :)

We strive to do good Because God loves us, not to get him to love us. :)

How much fear do you allow to be in your life? Whatever fear is there is because you are lacking in knowledge about the love of God.

You having a problem does not mean that God doesn't love you. He wants to help you always in your time of trouble. But he also would tell us we don't need to worry about our problems as much as we do.  We need to only have faith. :)

Job said, "The thing that I feared has come upon me."  But we don't need to be afraid of anything.  God will take care of you no matter what. Amen!





Fear

"Do one thing every day that scares you." That is a line from one of my favorite songs which is a speech called "Wear Sunscreen." :)

Sometimes fear can be fun.  It makes us feel more alive, that's for sure.  I am currently living in almost constant fear or apprehension of when my house will foreclose and I will be evicted. The back story to that is my ex husband hasn't worked for the past 8 months because he became schizophrenic.  I blame it on all the drugs he did in high school, which was tons.  My mom was paying my mortgage payment for about 4 months but she got tired of paying it. Then I started working but it wasn't enough to make up for what was past due on my house. :( If I could take up an offering for myself somewhere I would lol.  But I know most of America is broke now.  Most people are living paycheck to paycheck and none of us have much extra, it seems. But I'll be ok.  I trust that God will work things out for me.  He has so far, for sure.  This experience certainly has stretched my faith a ton. Somehow I have been able to live in my house 5 months after missing a payment.  Thanks be to God. :)

My impending foreclosure caused me to pick up smoking about 3 months ago, because I was so stressed about it.  I quit a week ago though, praise God. :) Now I've realized it's not like smoking is going to change the time of my foreclosure.  But now I think my fiancé and I have a good apartment picked out to move into soon so praise God. :)  It's in a really fun area so that would be great. I think I would go back to waitressing work which I have missed a lot.

In thinking about fear a lot this past 5 months, I realized, I think some people love fear.  That's why people love watching horror movies.  I have always hated the feeling of fear, but I suppose at times it can be good.  It certainly causes you to pray more when you are afraid.  Think about it.  God lets us go through fearful situations a lot.  He must do that to keep us praying. :)

But fear can be bad when we let a spirit of fear take a hold of us and our minds.  You can feel fear for a moment without being overcome by fear.  You can still keep moving forward in life, even though you are afraid.  Don't let fear make your whole life stop.  Don't crawl into a hole and want to hide forever because you are So afraid.  That's what my ex husband did, but I have kept pressing on.  I have kept living life.  I rented out rooms in my house to 6 different people the past 5 months and that was tons of fun.  I learned two new jobs and had a lot of fun with that.  Learn to keep living life in spite of your fears and always, always trust God, no matter what is happening in your life. Always remember that he has your back and he WILL work all things together for your good. Amen. :)

Maybe God had me go through this foreclosure situation so I would understand fear more, and have more authority to write on this subject.  If you are afraid of something in your life, I know how you feel.  It's almost like I'm dying of cancer, but it's not me dying, but my house dying. :(  My poor house. But I have hope now that I will move on to bigger and better places.  Maybe God is just saying I'm done with reaching people in this town and it's time to move on. New places and new scenery is always fun.

In Acts, when the disciples were persecuted they spread out all over the world and witnessed in more places.  So their hardship brought God glory because even more people got to hear the gospel.  Sometimes God lets us go through hard times to bring him glory, and to set us down a path where we can bring more people into the light of God's glorious and marvelous and wonderful grace.  Our life is not about us, it's about God.  Amen? Amen. :)

May God bless you all!  And remember to stay strong and not let fear overwhelm you.  Stay in faith, no matter what, that God loves you and will protect you and keep you safe.

And never forget, God loves you! :)

Tuesday, December 17, 2019

Freedom to Not Sin

"True freedom consists not in the freedom to sin, but in the freedom not to sin." -Billy Graham
For some reason, people in the world think that true freedom is getting to do whatever they want to do.  But that is not true freedom.  You might enjoy your freedom for a time of "getting to" drink and smoke etc., but then you might realize that such things have enslaved you and you feel you need them.  You are then no longer free but a slave.  So the thing we ran to when we felt free is now enslaving us.  But "he who the son sets free is free indeed." Amen! Praise God. :)  If you believe you are free, you can be.  You only need to change your perspective on what freedom is.  God does not want us to feel free To sin, but rather to see there is more freedom in Not sinning.  Amen.

It seems to be a common error that people tend toward either legalism or liscence.  You have some Christians who say you can't do anything "fun" and then you have the opposite extreme where some say you can do anything you want to and God will still love you and forgive you no matter what.  I personally think that salvation can be lost due to various verses such as, "Work out your salvation with fear and trembling."  I think this belief keeps me from that mentality though, that I can do anything I want to and God will still love me and save me no matter what.  I don't believe that I am saved no matter what.  Jesus said if we don't forgive others, God will not forgive us.  That is a pretty hard statement.  He also said that we will be judged according to every idle word we speak.  But I'm not going to go to the other extreme and become overly legalistic.  I think that's why people have a fear of believing salvation can be lost because then they think they would turn into a Pharisee regarding their own sin and everyone else's.  I think God gives us mercy and he understands we won't be perfect, even after we are saved.

Have you noticed that people often point the finger at those who commit sins that are different from their own? But we all commit some sins every day. None of us are perfect.  

I think everyone struggles with one of the 7 deadly sins. Some think they struggle with nothing but then their struggle is pride.  Some are obssessed with their physical appearance and so struggle with vanity.  Some can't control their temper and say hurtful things to others and so struggle with anger.  Some can't motivate themselves to get anything done and sleep to much and maybe drink to much, sloth.  Some look at porn or think about sex excessively and so struggle with lust.  Some only think about money, how to make more and what to spend the money on that they have, and so struggle with greed.  And some are always thinking about what next thing they will eat and so struggle with gluttony.  We all struggle with something.  None of us are perfect.  We all fall short of the glory of God.  Remember, before you judge another, look in the mirror at your own sins and struggles.  Take the log out of your own eye before trying to take a speck out of someone else's eye.

People will love you more if you stay humble and judge others less.  Judging comes from pride, in thinking that we are more perfect then the person we are judging.  But no one is perfect, and any good thing we do we only can do because God enables us to be good, so we have no reason to feel prideful about it. :)

Stay humble and you will be more blessed because "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."  God loves you all! :)

Monday, December 16, 2019

Have Faith

Matthew 21:22 "Whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”

When I think about faith I often think of the movie "The Matrix." When Morpheus is trying to help Neo jump across rooftops, he tells him "free your mind." In order to activate our faith we have to clear our mind of all the reasons why things might not work.  That will only hold you back.  "All things are possible to those who believe," Jesus said.  If you don't believe ALL things are possible then they aren't. "According to your faith it will be done to you," Jesus said.  If you believe you can do anything and be anything, with God, then you can.  If you believe anything can happen for you, then it can. There are probably things happening in your life right now that you never thought would happen.  That helps to increase our faith a ton for sure.  Look back at all that God has done in your life already and that will give you more faith for your future.  When I was only 14 I got to go on an awesome missions trip to India.  How many 14 year olds get to do that?  Not many get to go to India in a whole life time.  Now, in my current life, I have the hottest boyfriend ever and I can't believe how much God has blessed me with getting to have such a great guy! He is perfectly cute, good and smart. He is the perfect man I had always wanted. :)  And we both love to clean.  What are the odds of such a perfect match. lol :)

 If you never stop believing your dreams can happen, they will. :)

My next dream that I hope will come true would be getting a good teaching job in my area.  I have been working towards this as a career since I was 18 and if I could finally become a teacher it would be fabulous. :) Please pray for me.  I applied for a few jobs in my area and hopefully one will work out soon. I think teaching 4th grade would be great.  I was in charge of a group of 4th graders for a whole summer once going on field trips etc. and it was awesome.  I really enjoyed hanging out with that age of kids. :)  I think I would also do well as a 10th grade teacher.  10th grade was the best year of my life.  It would be nice to be in charge of that age as well.

Hebrews 11:6 "Without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him."

I love this concept.  That really is what faith is; believing that we deserve for God to reward us.  Why?  Because we seek him.  If you look back at history, what country was the most blessed and the most prosperous of all time?  England.  Why? Because they were the country that sought after God the most. Then us American did.  We have sought hard after God for quite awhile now, and we have been the most blessed nation in the entire histroy of the world.  We have been very much like Peter in the Bible; we have done some very stupid things, but we have done some very great things for God too.  There are some in America who don't care about God, but I think the majority of Americans still care a great deal about God and morality, so praise God for that. :)

God bless America! :)

And may we all keep seeking after God and not things of the world.  But praise God that he has blessed us and rewarded us with things of the world for seeking after him. :) "I know people say money can't buy everything but it can buy me a boat." lol :)

May God bless you all!

Tuesday, December 10, 2019

Be Careful How You Judge Others

Always remember to stay humble, and love, don't judge.  There is a place for correction and reproof of others, but generally we are called to be gentle and just love others. :)

I have noticed that if we can’t have grace with ourselves for our past sins, then it will be very hard to have grace with others. Forgive yourself for your struggles and you will then judge others less for their struggles.

No one is, or can be, perfect. But our imperfections keep us running to God for help, so praise God for that.  That is why Paul said, "When we are weak then we are strong" because we lean on and depend on God then, rather then ourselves.

"Love is patient, and love is kind."  When we truly love another, we will be patient with them and with their struggles.  We won't judge them more then we should.  "Take the log out of your own eye before trying to take the spec out of your brother's eye," Jesus said. If you judge, make sure you stay humble as you judge, or else it will come off as condemnation from Satan rather then a gentle correction from God.

And always remember, "It is God's kindness that leads us to repentance." Amen.

I think the main reason we judge others is in order to forget about our own sin, but we can't change others ultimately, we can only change ourselves.  Satan tries to get us to focus on others because he knows that is futile, overall.  We need to change ourselves first and then lead by example.  Be the person you want others to be. :)

I have been very judgmental of others in the past.  I think that's why I decided to start drinking and smoking, so I would finally get off my high horse and realize I'm not perfect. I love something we read written by a monk in college, "I feel it necessary to have at least one vice to keep me in touch with the rest of humanity." I will never forget that, and it's so true.  If we try to be perfect, then we will still have sin and that will be pride.

The Bible says, "All our righteous deeds are like filthy rags" to God.  No matter how much "good" we think we do, is it really good? Even in witnessing we might have ulterior motives, like to boost our own ego, so can that even count as a righteous deed? We might give money to a church but then might get prideful about it. We might read so many chapters in the Bible every day but then look down on anyone who doesn't. We might pray for so long every day but then look down our nose at those who don't, so then our pride negates the good thing we did.

Jesus talked about this regarding the Pharisees.  He said "When you pray, don't stand on the street corners so that you can be seen by men.  But when you pray, go into your closet and your father who sees what you do in secret will reward you."  Don't do your good things just to be seen by others, because then it doesn't matter.  Either your reward will come from people or God.  But really, there will be little reward from others, because you most likely will only incite their jealousy. Focus on only God seeing your good works rather then others.

"When you give, don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing."

Focus more on being humble and having a kind and loving heart then you focus on doing good things.  God wants our hearts more then what we can do.

And in closing, I love this passage in Isaiah 58, "Is this the kind of fast I have chosen, only a day for people to humble themselves? Is it only for bowing one's head like a reed and for lying in sackcloth and ashes? Is that what you call a fast, a day acceptable to the LORD?  Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke? Is it not to share your food with the hungry and to provide the poor wanderer with shelter- when you see the naked, to clothe them, and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood? Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear; then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard. Then you will call, and the LORD will answer; you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I. "If you do away with the yoke of oppression, with the pointing finger and malicious talk, and if you spend yourselves on behalf of the hungry and satisfy the needs of the oppressed, then your light will rise in the darkness, and your night will become like the noonday. The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail." Amen!

Do that. :) Be that. And God will bless you! Care about others more then you care about yourself.  Because it's not about you. Your life is meant to be about serving God through serving others. :)

May God bless you all!

Sermon Reflections

Here are my responses to questions in our bulletin from this week. :)

When do you feel the most vulnerable and weak?

When I'm in love with someone.  When I tell someone my whole life story and they are able to then judge me and what I've done or been through, that is when I feel the most vulnerable.  I think that's why most people choose to stay a closed book, because when you tell all to someone you can feel very vulnerable and that can be a scary feeling. But overall it is still worth it, because being fully known by someone is the best feeling in the world. :)

When have you experienced God's light in your darkness?

Many, many times.  Recently with my wonderful boyfriend. :) He has been a bright shinning light in the darkness for me.  He has made me so, so happy and it's been absolutely wonderful to hang out with him. :)  And with work my current job was and is a bright light shinning in my darkness.  My whole last year was very dark with So much drama and confusion and craziness, but praise God I am finally at the top of my mountain.  I climbed up through it all.  I overcame.  And now I'm at the summit gazing out at the beautiful view.  And it is definitely a very nice view. :)

When we are broken, how is God revealed to us?

We don't see God as well when things are going perfectly, probably because we feel more self-sufficient then and like we don't need God, so we forget about him.  But the Bible says "God is near to the broken hearted and binds up their wounds." For sure he is.  When we are broken and life is scary and hard, we draw closer to God because we realize more how much we need him.  We cling to him tighter and talk to him more. I suppose God puts us in those situations because he knows they will have that effect on us, and his greatest desire is to be close to us. :)

How is God at work in your life?

In many, many ways. I love the new worship song that says "Even when I don't see it you're working. God you never stop working." God has worked a lot in my life in bringing great guys into my life that I knew I could trust.  That really helped repair my trust in men after my dad was crazy and my ex went crazy, that some men still are good, secure, hard workers and trust worthy.  Praise God that there are still good men in our society!  Not all of American is depraved. :) There is still a holy remnant.  Praise God for us, the remnant. :) Not many still try to seek after holiness, but some of us still do.

God also broke off of me greed.  I used to have a serious problem with always wanting more stuff.  I was never content with what I already had.  But God is helping me to be content with less.  Praise God. :) I used to have a lack of respect for the value of money but also for men and how hard they have to work to get money.  God has taught me in the last 3 months to value both the effort it takes to get money and to respect men more.  So praise God for all the ways he has worked in my mind, heart and soul lately.  Amen. :)

I pray God will break off any sin or greed or pride that you might have also.  Our greatest need is God, not stuff and not people.  It's nice to have stuff and people, but God should always be number one in our hearts. We can't have any idols and any gods before God. Amen.

May God bless you!


For My Boyfriend

I love you more then words could express, but let me try. :)

It is almost unbelievable how much I love you.
I love you more then I've ever loved anyone.

Seeing you is like seeing a beautiful sunrise,
Like the light piercing through the clouds on a dismal day,
Like the ocean on the night of a gorgeous sunset.

Being around you is like siting by a warm campfire all evening,
Like a warm, long relaxing bath,
Like sitting in the sun on a gorgeous day.

Words cannot even express fully how wonderful I think you are, but I shall try.

I see you as being like a king sitting on a throne,
Like a valiant warrior on a beautiful horse,
Like a captain of a ship in the storm mastering the storm.

You are the strongest, yet most gentle man I've ever known.
The love in your heart is almost unfathomable to me.
The love in your heart I had never seen before.
The care and concern you show blows my mind. :)

No one could steal my heart away from you. 
I want to love you until I die.
I want to hold you and care for you forever.
I don't want anyone in the world but you.
I want to be all yours forever. :)







Sunday, December 8, 2019

How to Stay in Love

This blog will be a compilation of things that I learned the hard way and things that worked well in my previous marriage.  I was married to my ex husband for 7 years.  6 years were wonderful.  The last year was hell.  And then we separated.

Here's what made the marriage good for 6 years: writing love notes.  People often don't realize how we feel about them until we express it.  Make sure that you say more positive things to your special person then negative things. The best way to make up for any abusive things you may have said to them is to write a Loooong love note about all the things you love about them. :)

Women make sure to try to be content with the material things you already have and don't shop to much.  Before you buy anything ask yourself "Do I really need this?"  Our standards of what we "need" in America are very, very different from any other country.  We think if we have had a shirt for a year it's time for a new shirt, for example, but why?  Be content with less. :) Try letting things last longer. And you don't need a new blanket for your bed every few months.  I know it's tempting, but try to have self-control ladies. ;)

Men, FOCUS on your woman when you are around her.  Don't look at your phone and ignore her.  You have no idea how much that hurts her heart.  It makes it seem like you have no interest in her or what she says at all.  And it's very rude.  If you need "me" time, go out for a drive.  And men, don't look at porn.  If you aren't satisfied with your sex life, Tell her.  Don't just hold it in and look at porn instead.  That's really messed up.

To keep your love alive forever, make sure you hold their hand as much as you can and walk with arms around each other, because that's cute. :)  Hug often.  Drink wine together every few days. :) Don't just let your love die until you only feel like friends.  Try to keep the magic alive the rest of your lives.  Do what couples who are dating do the rest of your lives.  Compliment your special someone.  Men tell your woman she is beautiful as much as you can.  Women, tell your man he is hot and strong etc.  Guys need to hear compliments too. ;)

1 John 4:19 Always remember "We love because he first loved us." We Cannot love the person we are with unless we receive God's love for us.  When you fully realize how Much God loves you, you are then able to fully love another person.  It's not until you really grasp how much God loves you that you can fully love others. :)

The meanest people are the most insecure.  The best cure for insecurity is to pray without ceasing. Work on your relationship with God.  Once you feel like God is your Best friend, you will never be insecure every again.  For real. :)

May God bless you all!

Thursday, December 5, 2019

Not Knowing What You Have

I love the line in an Amy Grant song that says "Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you got until it's gone." Isn't that the truth.

Hindsight is 20/20.  I kept thinking my ex husband just went crazy but really it was my greed and shopping addiction partly that made him go crazy.  But all the while I was pointing my finger at him and his smoking when I had a serious problem with greed. I could never be content and happy with what I already had, which was probably why he always thought I would cheat on him.  He probably assumed in the same way I always wanted more stuff that I would want a new model of a man too.  I wasn't even thinking that though at all when I was with him, but when he left I definitely did some searching and shopping for a better man.  I was somewhat happy to have the opportunity to try to find someone better.  And I think I have, but time will tell on that.

But we never know what we really have until it's gone.  I didn't realize how good I had life with Ben until he left.  I wasn't grateful for never having to work and getting to stay home until now when I'm having to work.  I mostly enjoy working but my feet and back seriously hurt a lot when I started working. :)  I didn't even realize how spoiled I was when I was with my ex husband.

And you might not like having to deal with drama from someone you love, but it sure is worth it when you get to hold them all night. No one wants to be lonely.  It's never fun to be alone.  I mean it can be relatively fun because then you can have peace.  But being alone is generally not fun.  If you have no one to share life with, then what is the point to life?

So value whoever you have and never let them go.  Treat them good.  Hug them as much as you can.  Cook for them.  Keep the house clean.  Do what they ask of you, and you will have a happy life.  Don't ever take the person you have for granted, because you never know when they will have had enough and be gone.  So be careful and love them the best you can.

May God bless ya'll!

Monday, December 2, 2019

Heartbreak Sucks

Love is scary and crazy sometimes.  I don't know why it has to turn people completely mad at times, but it seems to.  Love can either bring out the best in us or the worst. Love can be heaven or it can be total hell.  We all want to let someone in to know us, but then once we do, they can hurt us a TON.  So it's a big risk.

Love often is like playing the lottery.  It might be a waste of your time.  It might hurt when you loose money or your dignity or a part of your heart, but you might also win the lottery, meaning you might finally find a happily ever after relationship that will last forever that will make your life amazing.  But most relationships you have Don't end in Happily Ever After.  They simply end with you saying, "Wow, I wish I would have never met him/her."  But then it just becomes a huge learning experience, and eventually you will have peace about the time you spent on them, and you move on, and hope that the next relationship will go better.

All things work together for the good, in the end.  When dating, either you meet the love of your life, or you learn something from hoping someone will be the love of your life. Either your new lover boosts your ego and compliments you a ton, or they speak hard truths to you and you learn more about yourself by being insulted by them a ton.  Anyone can flatter you, but not many will have the boldness to tell you hard truths.  Of course often times in love we say things we don't mean and that have no wisdom just to hurt the other person the way they hurt us.

It's amazing that any of us take the risk of falling in love again after getting our heart broken. Is it stupid or couragous? It's hard to say. :)

Saturday, November 30, 2019

Love Don't Judge

1 John 4:8 "Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love."

Love is HARD. People in the world think Christian are the weakest people but actually we are the strongest, because it is not easy to love people.  It's a whole lot easier to hate someone when they hurt you, but to forgive someone and still love them and bless them when they hurt you, that is where true strength is. :) Only the strongest people can do that.

1 Peter 4:8 "Keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins."
If you really love someone you won't care what they did or didn't do.  "Love keeps no record of wrongs."

Colossians 3:14 "Put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony."
Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy.  His number one goal is to divide and conquer.  He wants to divide any strong friendship and any love relationship, because he hates it when we are united in love with others.  But don't let him.  God desires that we have harmony with others, so seek peace at all costs.  Don't let Satan pit you against those you love the most.

John 13:34-35 "By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
I have never understood why those in church can sometimes be some of the most cold and heartless people out there.  It is pretty ironic isn't it?  Love is supposed to define all of who a Christian is, but sometimes, often times, Christians can be the least loving people.  I know I have had this problem a lot in the past.  For some reason when we get saved we think we can judge everyone else.  But we aren't saved and then become God. Saved people are still sinners and we need to stay humble and always see that.  Don't get to full of yourself just because you are saved.  God OPPOSES the proud, but gives grace to the humble.

It's a lot more fun to judge others then to BE judged. I think we judge others to get our minds off of all the judgment we ourselves get from others. Bullies were always bullied themselves. ;) And "those who deserve love the least often need it the most." So love your haters. ;)

Love Sucks

I think I'll get my first tattoo tomorrow.  It will be on my forearm and it will say "Boys Are Stupid." :)  And I'm considering dying my hair black.  It should look really cool I think. :) Time for a rebel look for me I think.  :)

I don't know why I keep tring to find love.  I probably should just stay single for a week or a month or longer.  That could do my brain and soul some good for sure.  There are only so many times a person can put themselves out there and get rejected.  But it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all right?  "I could have missed the pain, but then I would have missed the dance."  :)

We always try to find someone we will be perfectly compatible with, but the reality is there is no one you will ever be perfectly compatible with, because we are all so different.  Some poeple can handle differences in others and some can't.

In any love relationship it seems both people always try to change each other.  That can be good sometimes.  The Bible says "As iron sharpens iron so one person sharpens another." And "Two are better then one for if one falls, his friend can help him up." And "It is not good for the man to be alone."  Of course it doesn't say it is not good for a woman to be alone. lol :) Women do tend to handle being alone a lot better then men do. Or do we? hm...I shall try this being alone for a week or longer.  It probably will feel like a breath of fresh air overall.  I need some me time I think. :) It's time to kick every single guy to the curb and just breath for a bit I think.
I hope you all can find freedom from whatever addiction you have and just be free for awhile. :)

I know I have always had a "love addiction." But that was part of the curse for women.  God told the woman "Your desire shall be for your husband but he shall rule over you."  Meaning, most women want a man, but when they get one, he tends to dominate her and make her feel like crap, which is very true.

God help me.

May God bless all ya'll!

Thursday, November 28, 2019

Be Wise in Your Words

Colossians 3:17 "Whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him."

There is a great phrase that sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.  That phrase is all about denial.  Do whatever you do in the name of the Lord, as in, make sure all that you do and say will glorify God.  Just because someone says hurtful things to you that doesn't give you a right to hate them.  For some reason every year with the holidays a million offenses will come.  People will say things that will hurt you.  Any time you open up and let people in and really talk to people, they might hurt you.  Where do you go with that hurt?  Do you put walls up?  Do you let the anger stay insideo of you and fester?  Do you try to take revenge?  Or do you give it to God?  Will you let go of your anger today? And lay it down at Jesus' feet? ;)

Psalm 19:14 ""Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord." If you let the sun go down on our anger, you Give Satan a foothold in your mind and heart. Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy. Did you let Satan win in your mind today? Repent.

Ephesians 4:29-32 "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, (by hurting others) by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."
Are you quick to forgive others?  Or are you quick to judge them?  "Judge not lest you be judged, for with the same measure you judge others you will be judged."  We reap what we sow.  If we are without mercy towards others, we will not be shown mercy when we need it.

Be careful of being to hard on others. We have all sinned and fall way short of the glory of God.  Look in the mirror before pointing the finger at another person. When you point a finger at someone else there are 3 fingers pointing back at you for a reason. ;)

Colossians 3:8 "You must put these all far away from you: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and mean talk from your mouth."
Proverbs 18:21 "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits."

Be very careful what you say to others.  Think before you speak.  If you don't, you will regret it.  Pray, a lot, before you speak to anyone when you are angry. And be wise.

May God bless you all!

Sunday, November 24, 2019

Don't Covet and Be Grateful

This week is Thanksgiving week so I'll write about being thankful for what you have and not coveting what you don't have.  There is a great song by Rihanna called "Live Your Life."  At the beginning a guy says, "Stop thinking about what you aint got and be thankful for the life you do have."  Amen to that!  I think it is human nature to always look at the One thing you can't have or don't have and want it.  Like Adam and Eve in the garden were told they could eat from any tree but one, and what did Eve do?  She decided she wanted to eat from the One tree she couldn't.  Of course that was partly thanks to Satan tempting her, but it's also interesting that she wasn't satisfied enough with ALL the trees she could eat from.  She wanted to eat from the One she wasn't supposed to.

Aren't we the same way?  We maybe aren't supposed to buy so many things but we do anyway.  We might be trying to watch our weight and pledge to ourselves to avoid junk food but then we eat it anyways.  We might be trying to quit smoking or drinking but then we do it anyway.  Sometimes the more we try to avoid something the more we want it.  Even when we know certain things are bad for us, we do them anyways.  Like I have been smoking for the past 4 months since my girls went away from me to help me deal with the sadness of it all.  But I think I'm finally to a point where I don't need to smoke, praise God.  I have moved on, for the most part, and am happy now for the new life I have as an independent woman again. Also God has given me enough wisdom to realize I am much, much happier when I don't smoke.  There is only one reason to smoke really, to silence my emotions, and about 100 reasons to not smoke.  So why do it?  God give me more and more wisdom in this, and for anyone reading this, if you have an addiction you want to overcome.  :)

I pray often that God will make me the wisest person alive today.  I know that's a lot to ask for but hey if you have faith as small as a mustard seed you can move mountains right? :) I certainly am leanring a ton due to all the crazy circumstances I've been through in my life.  I think now God is putting me around some of the wisest people now I've ever known in order to increase my wisdom, so praise God for all my new smart friends. :)

But be careful about coveting and wanting things you don't have or can't have.  Be happy with the things you Do have.  The more thankful you are for what you already have, the happier you will be.  Try to not covet things that are not yours.  Maybe they are not yours for a Reason.  Maybe you think you want it or them, but then if you were to get it/them, you wouldn't be all that happy with it, whatever It is for you. ;)

Try to be grateful for what you already have.  You can do it! lol :)

May God bless you all!

Tuesday, November 19, 2019

Keep Hoping and Believing

Just because something doesn't go the way you were predicting or hoping for, for now, that doesn't mean that it never will.  Just stay in faith.  If God told you that you can have something, you will.  Just wait on his perfect timing. "You have not because you ask not." If you want something, ask God for it.  "Delight yourself in the Lord and he shall give you the desires of your heart."  What is your greatest desire?  God wants to know.  You might think "God already knows what I want."  But not necessarily.  Often times we don't even know ourselves what our greatest desire is.  We push it out of our minds because we think it's impossible, but what if it is possible? What if really "all things are possible to those who believe?"  How big do you think God is?  Do you really believe that he can do what seems impossible?  Why not just go out on a limb and ask God for big things, that big thing that you really, really want.  People are more bold with Santa and what they want for Christmas then they are with God.  What if God really does care about what you want most?

For some reason the predeominant thought among Christians is a very ascetic way of thinking that we got from the Catholic monks.  Most Christians literally think God wants them to be miserable.  But really? What parent ever wants their children to be miserable?  None.  Every parent wants their child to be happy.  Of course parents know more then kids what will make them happy, like not eating sugar will make them more happy in the long run so they don't have to suffer at the dentist's office.  So there are things we ask God for where he's like, "No that would only hurt you. I have something better for you."

Trust God's judgement in the long run.  If he doesn't give you what you first asked for, he will give you something better. :) But still ask, because you never know, you might get the very thing you want the most.  Just keep believing that it's possible, and it might be. :)

May God bless you!  And may God give you the greatest desires of your heart! :)

Monday, November 18, 2019

Prophecy Reveals Secrets

Having a gift of prophecy means people will get mad at times at what you say, but it isn’t your fault. That’s the Holy Spirit convicting them in the truth of what you said. If the shoe fits, wear it, and then go buy different shoes. 😁👍🏼 As in, Change what you hate in yourself. 

Here is a good verse about prophecy, "If an unbeliever or an inquirer comes in while everyone is prophesying, they are convicted of sin and are brought under judgment by all,  as the secrets of their hearts are laid bare. So they will fall down and worship God, exclaiming, “God is really among you!”  If you are speaking truth that brings out the secrets of others' hearts, that is because you are using your gift of prophecy.  Any Christian can have the gift of speaking prophecy.  It isn't necessarily predicting the future.  It is just speaking out the truth. 

The truth almost always makes people angry because they love to hide in darkness. The truth often necessitates a change.  We get angry in order to have the energy to make the change in ourselves that we need to.  But so many quench the Holy Spirit and ignore the warnings from God that they need to change.  People love to shoot the messenger instead of take what God is saying to them and make the change they need to. If a truth makes you angry, don't get angry at the person who said it, only get angry at yourself if you ignore it.

Sunday, November 17, 2019

Hell is Real

Here are some verses to refresh all ya'll's memory that hell is a real place and a ton of people Will be going there.  Anyone who does not believe in Jesus, that Jesus is God, Will go to hell when they die.  Period.

Matthew 10:28
Do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.

Rev. 20:11-15
"Then I saw a great white throne and him who was seated on it. The earth and the heavens fled from his presence, and there was no place for them. And I saw the dead, great and small, standing before the throne, and books were opened. Another book was opened, which is the book of life. The dead were judged according to what they had done as recorded in the books. The sea gave up the dead that were in it, and death and Hades gave up the dead that were in them, and each person was judged according to what they had done. Then death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire. The lake of fire is the second death. Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire."

Revelation 21:8
As for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.

Matthew 25
"Then shall God say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
42 For I was an hungry, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink:
43 I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not.
44 Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee?
45 Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me.
And these will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.”

Revelation 20:10
The devil who had deceived them was thrown into the lake of fire and sulfur where the beast and the false prophet were, and they will be tormented day and night forever and ever.

Romans 6:23
For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Revelation 20:15
If anyone's name was not found written in the book of life, he was thrown into the lake of fire.

Matthew 25:41
“Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels.

Matthew 5:22
But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.

Revelation 14:11
And the smoke of their torment goes up forever and ever, and they have no rest, day or night, these worshipers of the beast and its image, and whoever receives the mark of its name.

2 Thessalonians 1:9
They will suffer the punishment of eternal destruction, away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might.

Matthew 13:50
This is how it will be at the end of the age. The angels will come and separate the wicked from the righteous and throw them into the fiery furnace. In that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

2 Peter 2:4
For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but cast them into hell and committed them to chains of gloomy darkness to be kept until the judgment...if this is so, then the Lord knows how to rescue the godly from trials and to hold the unrighteous for punishment on the day of judgment.

Jude 1:7
Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding cities, which likewise indulged in sexual immorality and pursued unnatural desire, serve as an example by undergoing a punishment of eternal fire.

John 3:16-18
Whoever believes in Jesus is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.

Revelation 20:14
Then Death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire. This is the second death, the lake of fire.

Mark 9:43-48
If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than with two hands to go to hell, to the unquenchable fire. And if your foot causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life lame than with two feet to be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell, ‘where their worm does not die and the fire is not quenched.’

Matthew 23:33
You serpents, you brood of vipers, how are you to escape being sentenced to hell?

Luke 16:19-31
"There was a rich man named Patrick who was dressed in purple and fine linen and lived in luxury every day. 20 At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores 21 and longing to eat what fell from the rich man’s table. Even the dogs came and licked his sores.
22 “The time came when the beggar died and the angels carried him to Abraham’s side. The rich man also died and was buried. 23 In Hades, where he was in torment, he looked up and saw Abraham far away, with Lazarus by his side. 24 So he called to him, ‘Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.’
25 “But Abraham replied, ‘Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, while Lazarus received bad things, but now he is comforted here and you are in agony. 26 And besides all this, between us and you a great chasm has been set in place, so that those who want to go from here to you cannot, nor can anyone cross over from there to us.’
27 “He answered, ‘Then I beg you, father, send Lazarus to my family, 28 for I have five brothers. Let him warn them, so that they will not also come to this place of torment.’
29 “Abraham replied, ‘They have Moses and the Prophets; let them listen to them.’
30 “‘No, father Abraham,’ he said, ‘but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent.’
31 “He said to him, ‘If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be convinced even if someone rises from the dead.’”

Daniel 12:2
"Many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, and some to shame and everlasting contempt."

Luke 12:5
But I will warn you whom to fear: fear him who, after he has killed, has authority to cast into hell. Yes, I tell you, fear him!

Acts 2:27 "You will not abandon my soul to Hades, or let your Holy One see corruption."

Saturday, November 16, 2019

My Testimony

I grew up in church since I was a baby. I rebelled a bit though in junior high, after my parents divorced. At age 14 I finally decided to take Christianity seriously. I guess that’s when I started having a fear or respect of God and when I first started reading the Bible and praying a lot. :)

I went to India on a missions trip at 14 and that really cemented my faith. Then I went to Taiwan twice to teach English and Mexico about 7 times on missions trips. I have worked with kids in most of my jobs the past 20 years and always have a goal to help kids love God, because life is hard and kids need lots of encouragement. :)

I think it’s key we keep our faith alive that God is good and that he loves us. We can’t let Satan convince us that God doesn’t care about us. We have to keep that relationship with God close and strong, because ultimately God is our only hope in life and our only protector and provider. 😁👍🏼 God is good! Woot. 😀

Learn to Wait Well

When you pray for something, God will tell you no, yes, or wait.

We generally are not very good at waiting.  Think of any time you have had to wait in line.  It's not fun right?  But God wants us to be good at waiting.  "Delight yourself in the Lord and he shall give you the desires of your heart."  But he doesn't give you all your desires at once.  If he did you would probably be spoiled.  He often gives us one blessing at a time, probably so that we won't get too prideful.  God gives us as much blessing as we can handle at one time.  He doesn't want us to loose sight of him so he blesses us slowly sometimes.  But if he has put a dream in your mind and given you a vision of something, he will bring it to pass.  Just stay in faith that he will and he will. :) Keep believing and keep hoping.

Psalm 130:5 "I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word I hope."  God speaks to us through the Bible, but he also speaks to us in our spirit.  Jesus said "My sheep hear my voice."  If you want to heart God speaking to you, you can.  You just have to listen harder.  Go on a walk a few times a day to hear God.  It often isn't until we get away from all the distractions in our home and go for a walk that we can clearly hear God speak to us. :)

Isaiah 40:31 "They who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint."  When you learn to be good at waiting, you grow stronger.  It's kind of like taking a really good nap.  You wake up feeling renewed and refreshed.  When we take a nap, or a break, from striving and trying to do things on our own and just wait for God, our strength will be renewed.  Praise God! :)

Isaiah 30:18 "For the Lord is a God of justice; blessed are all those who wait for him."  You might be waiting on God for a blessing or for justice.  I know in my case, my dad sexually abused me as a kid.  He initially only served 6 months in jail, which I felt wasn't just enough.  Recently he got committed to prison for 10 years for molesting more kids.  I felt then that justice had finally prevailed. If you wait on God to bring justice to those who hurt you, he will.  Don't get revenge yourself in any way.  Wait on God to bring justice to those who did you wrong.  Let go and let God. That is why we can forgive because it's not up to us to bring about justice for ourselves.  ''Vengeance is mine" says the Lord. "I will repay it."  Amen.

Psalm 40:1 "I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry."  If God doesn't seem to be answering your prayer right away know that he still hears you, but he has a lot of things to do. :) God doesn't live to serve us, we live to serve God.  Amen? So wait patiently for him to help you.  He will in due time.  Just stay in faith and learn to wait well on God.

I pray this blog blessed you all and helped you grow in faith and wisdom.  God loves you all and I love you all too!  That's why I write so much for you all, whoever you all are. lol :)

May God bless you! :)

Friday, November 15, 2019

Gossip and Lies are Killers

 The fastest way to kill any relationship is through lies and gossip. When you talk to other people a lot about a person in negative ways, the relationship will probably end. Also if you don't respect that person enough to not lie to them, your relationship probably won't last.

I could say tons about those two topics but I'll just say that over the past year my ex husband lied to me about 20 times and his mom lied to me and him about 10 times so that's why I decided to be done for now with Ben and his family.  I let them have our two girls for now and I have distanced myself from them and all the craziness so that I would not go crazy.  I can't handle lying.  It's my number one pet peeve. And I definitely can't handle people that can't stop talking about other people.  It's like come on, have some self-control.  My goodness. Find a different hobby.

The gossip was absolutely horrendous with my ex husband's family.  Everyone talks about everybody and every tiny little thing that anyone does.  I guess that was their hobby.  I can find other things to talk about rather then critical things about every single person in my family.  I vent sometimes about people, but I'm not going to do that 24/7.  That's SO destructive and I don't get why people don't realize how damaging it can be to a family.  I guess their goal was to destroy our family, or they just didn't realize that it probably would destroy our family.

So I have enjoyed taking a big step back from that this past 5 months.  I talk to almost no one now except my best friend Ashley and my new co-workers.  They tried to rope me into the gossip mud bath but I said no thank you to that.  I have never been much into gossiping and I never will be.  It doesn't do any good.  It only brings about harm.  And you only feel like a horrible person after doing it.

Typically women are the only ones who gossip but men can to. Don't do it.

Here are some good verses on the subject:

Proverbs 20:19 "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler."  If someone tells you secrets, keep their secrets to yourself.  Don't betray them. And your words should have meaning to them.  Don't just talk just to talk.  Learn something and teach something from the words used.

Proverbs 16:28 "A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends." Yep.
Proverbs 11:13 "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered." Yep.

Ephesians 4:29 "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." Amen. :)  If you feel dirty after talking to someone maybe you shouldn't talk like that anymore. I think lots of people have of insecurity and depression due to the ongoing negative conversations they choose to have. Then they have anxiety that others will find out what they have been talking about. The solution is to only say words that you would later on be proud of. :)

Proverbs 26:20 "For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases." If you want to stop pissing people off around you, stop talking badly about them. If you don't have anything good to say, then don't say anything at all. People might think for a time they like hearing all the juicy gossip about everyone they can, but in the end they will feel bad for looking down on others.

Gossip comes from pride.  You think you are better then that other person and so you feel justified to think they are horrible and then cause everyone else to think they are horrible too.  But are you really that great?  I mean really?  Is anyone really all that great? No. None of us are.  So we can't ever get up on our high horse and look down on others.  No matter what their sin is, you have plenty of sins too.  "He is without sin cast the first stone."  Don't throw stones at others and what they do or don't do until you are perfect.  Which will mean you will never be able to, justifiably.

Just be nice.

God bless! :)

Possible Happy Endings that Died

I think my recent friend breakup, and we were Just friends for any wondering, with my former boss reminded me of my anger toward my ex husband, which I have just kind of stuffed for the past 6 months.

The situation with my ex husband was incredibly messed up, him leaving and letting himself go crazy over the past year.  We had several fights the 3 months before he left and I kept trying to spiritually correct him.  I kept saying, "The issue is that you are talking to demons More then you talk to.  You are gossiping about me with demons."  I knew exactly what this was like because that happened to me with the guy I was with before Ben.  Satan or demons would totally whisper in my ear that he was a bad guy and that I shouldn't trust him but he was a good guy.  I knew it was all Satan lying to me and giving me a spirit of fear but I didn't know how to overcome the lies being spoken to me.

Satan is called "the accuser of the brethren" in the Bible, so he accuses others to us, in our own minds, to try to turn us against them. Satan hates love and unity. He tries to divide and conquer by keeping us as isolated as he can cuz isolated sheep are the easiest to kill. :(

If we let that go on, these evil thoughts about another, a stronghold is built that is hard to get over, which was the case with my ex husband.  He dwelled on the thoughts so much that I was a cheater, which I wasn't, that it became a stronghold in his mind.  He considered me commenting on Facebook and just responding to guy's comments as me cheating.  Pretty nuts for sure.  But I guess that just showed how much he loved me.  He loved me so much that it made him crazy.  That even me talking to guys in that way made him crazy.

I know with my current boyfriend he was worried at first that I would make him go crazy too lol.  Hopefully I never would. :) And a guy I had talked to about it all said, "Is your stuff that good that you made this boy go crazy?"  I was like "What do you mean?"  But yes essentially it was that Ben was that much in love with me that he went crazy because of it.  But I didn't feel the same way.

 After Ben told me 6 months ago that he has looked at porn our whole marriage I definitely turned my heart off to him and I lost pretty much all the respect I had for him spiritually and felt cold toward him physically.  It didn't help that every job he tried to do wasn't working out either.  He tried a Cement Truck driving job but couldn't get it down.  Then one night he had some beers with a neighbor, slept through his alarm the next morning and they fired him.  That job might have worked but then that definitely made it not work out.  So then that made me even more mad at his drinking and smoking etc.  He would drink a glass of Sangria every night.  I didn't like it much.  And he smoked out whole marriage about a half pack a day, which got expensive.  He would bash me about buying things on Amazon but I felt like if he got to enjoy smoking then I got to enjoy buying random fun things on Amazon.  I tried to limit myself to $10 a day, which we could mostly afford because he made a lot as a Fuel Truck Driver.  But then I got a credit card and it got a little out of hand.  The credit card stressed him out a ton for sure, as it probably should have.  I should have never gotten it.

I remember when I met Ben he wasn't a smoker and started about 2 months after we got married and I felt so robbed.  I said to him, "If I had known you were a smoker I never would have married you. I would never marry a smoker."  But he just kept smoking.  He said it was my fault because I stressed him out.  Whatever.  He could have used other coping skills to deal with his stress.  Of course now, ironically, I'm smoking to deal with the stress of him being gone, but that's besides the point lol.  But also I actually picked up smoking after he left in an attempt to understand him.  I wanted to do it myself so I would stop judging him for doing it.  And I do mostly understand the appeal of it now so that's good.  But now I think about wanting to smoke all the time so my sociological experiment maybe wasn't a good one. lol.

Anyways, life is hard but God gets us through it.  God certainly has sustained my mental soundness through all this so praise God.  I never went crazy even though Ben did.  Miracle right there. :)

Life is very, very hard at times.  I love the song "So Much For my Happy Ending" by Avril Lavigne.  That is my main song for my ex husband and now somewhat for my former boss who I was hoping to be with.  I still think in the future there is a possibility that dream might be fulfilled, but only God knows. :) For now I am trying to forget about him. Trying would be the key word. lol

There is still a possibility that my family can be reunited and Ben can stop being crazy and things could go back to how they were.  I would have to fully forgive him for looking at porn though, which maybe that would be to hard.  I think I have forgiven him, but trusting him again would be hard.

It's easy for us to get our hopes up about things and life and having a perfect family but then Satan comes in and messes it all up.  That is what happened with my ex husband and I'm really tired of Satan messing up all my possible happy endings, but it is what it is.

Pray for me.  And don't worry I'll be ok. :) Thanks all!  God bless :)

Changing the World

"If it makes you happy it can't be that bad" right? Actually yes it can be.  There are tons of things that make us happy that can be bad, like smoking and drinking and shopping or eating too much for example.

Even in our desire to change the world, as I think all of us have, we can go about it the wrong way.

I seem to have an obsessive need to help as many people I can.  That's why I write so much on my blog and on twitter.  That was the root cause of the issues with my former boss.  It wasn't lust so much as I want to help and teach as many people as I can.  But the majority of people don't want to be taught.  That's when you have to let go and let God.  And then all you can is pray for them. ;)

Jesus taught in parables so that those who didn't really care to learn anything wouldn't, and those who really wanted to learn would.  They were like riddles for people to figure out.  God doesn't want the simple minded or the selfish or the weak.  God only wants those who want to be wise and strong.

Jesus said "to those who overcome to the End I will give the crown of life."  If you can't overcome, God doesn't want you.  That's literally and actually the hard truth.

If you turn and run and give up when you face persecution, God doesn't want you.  If you dig a hole and hide the rest of your life because you can't take the pressure of being a Christian, God doesn't want you. Only the strong survive as a Christian. If you aren't strong, you won't be a Christian for very long.

The weakest people are not the Christians but rather the non-Christians.

Jesus said "Go into All the world and make disciples of all nations."  If you aren't actively trying to do that, can you really say you are Christian?

I've always had a Great desire to make my mark on the world and to affect as many people as I can.  I think that's why God has had me move around so much and have as many jobs as I've had, so I can be around the greatest number of people and make disciples of as many people as I can. :)

If you get fired from a job, consider that maybe God wants to bring you into a wider and bigger place around more people.

All of life is a journey.  We have never arrived at our destination until we get to heaven. God likes to change things in our lives often so that we never stop growing and getting stronger.  No one grows when they stay in one place or around the same people for too long.  We grow the most when there is lots of change in our lives.

And the stronger and wiser we are, the more we are capable of changing the world, for Jesus. :) That is why God lets us go through Many trials at times.  His goal is not our comfort but rather that we make disciples of as many people as we can.

May God bless you all!  Now go make some disciples! :)









Thursday, November 14, 2019

Overcome the Bullies

When a bully tries to make you afraid of them, you have to show them you are Not, and will never be, afraid of them, or else you will be running away from bullies your entire life like a coward. ;)
Life is full of bullies.  There will always be people that want to make you serve them and turn you into a slave.  Life is full of people who will want to make you feel less then so that they can feel superior and better about themselves.  There will be people who will want to take away your voice and silence you because they are jealous of you.  But don't let them control you.  Don't show the bullies that they won.  Keep living your life.  Don't let a spirit of fear come over you.  Stay strong.  Be bold.  Stay alive.  Keep hoping and believing that you can and will be all that you can be.

No matter who tries to kick you down in life, get back up and keep running. :)

God bless!

Keep Your Hope Alive

Here are the Best Disney lyrics ever: "A dream is a wish your heart makes, when your fast asleep.  In dreams you can loose your heart ache, whatever you wish for you keep.  Have faith in your dreams and someday, your rainbow will come shining through.  No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true." :)

Never give up hope.  Just because you don't seem to be achieving your dreams yet, keep hoping and keep believing.  Don't ever stop believing.  "All things are possible to those who believe." Also God will generally just fulfill one dream of yours at a time.  You can't get to greedy and expect God to make all your dreams come true in one day.  :) Give it time, whatever it is that you are hoping for.  Trust God to bring about what he has told you that he will.  And be patient.  But stay in hope and keep praying for it.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." God wants us to have a good future.  He wants to give us the desires of our hearts.  But we are to seek his kingdom first and his righteousness and Then all these other things will be added unto us.  Don't expect to get the desires of your heart until you first delight yourself in the Lord and seek his kingdom.  You can't have the blessing without doing the time. :) You don't rewarded until you put in the hard work.

Romans 15:13 "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope." I love this song by Audio Adrenaline, "I get down but he lifts me up."  Satan and the world try to put you down all the time.  They try to take the wind out of your sails and make you want to dig a hole and burry yourself in it at times, but Jesus said "I came that you might have life and life Abundantly." So always have that hope. Know that God wants you to have a Great life. Amen praise God. :)  And he will bring it about in his timing.

Romans 12:12 "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer." I love the quote that every person needs something to do, someone to love and something to hope for.  Our jobs of course are something to do, but it's nice to have hobbies too.  Obviously writing is my hobby. It would be nice if it could be my career, but for now it's just a hobby. :) If you don't have someone to love, find someone to love. :) Obviously with the amount of hours you spend around your co-workers they are great people to show love to.  Pray for them.  Show concern and ask them about their lives.  Take the time to invest in them and to encourage them.  You can lean on them at times and then they can lean on you at times.  It's always great to have great co-workers.  "Two are better then one and a strand of three cords is not easily broken." Amen. And "there is greater strength in numbers." That's a great line from the movie Gladiator. :) The more close friends you have, the better your life will go.  Satan wants to isolate you, but don't let him.  Make the effort to put yourself out there, even when you know people might hurt you.  In the end, you will be glad you did. Also it's key to have something to hope for, maybe a cruise or whatever your dream is.  "Never stop believing in the beauty of your dreams." Keep that hope alive that someday, you just might get what you are hoping for.  In the mean time, give it to God and watch him work.  God never stops working. Even when you don't see it, he's working. Amen. Praise God. :)

Isaiah 40:31 "They who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary." While you are waiting for what you hoping for, learn to be good at waiting. Don't try to force things to be ripe before they are.  If you try to eat fruit before it's ripe, it doesn't taste as good.  You have to wait for what you are hoping for to become ripe before you can enjoy it.

Hebrews 11:1 "Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen." I always had a hard time understanding this verse, but basically it means if God has given you a vision of your future, keep that vision in front of you and keep believing that it will happen. It's only a matter of time. Just keep having faith that it will come to pass.  You might not see it happening now, or you might not see how it could Ever happen, but you have to stay in faith that it could and will happen. If God has told you that it will happen, it will, just give it time. When we hope for something that God has put in our hearts and told us will happen, we can be assured that it will happen, eventually. :)
Never stop dreaming and hoping.  "Delight yourself and the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart." Amen.

God bless!

Be Careful of Idols

God is a jealous God and “he disciplines those he loves.” If you have any idols, God will take them out of your life. Don’t hold anything in higher esteem then God. Ever. 👍🏼

I have often made this mistake with boys. The curse for women was “your desire shall be for your husband (or a husband) yet he shall rule over you.” This is why Paul says it’s better to remain single, if you can, because those who marry “will face many troubles in this life.” I can say a big amen to that. 😔

If you can stay single, stay single. You will be 10 times more happy in the long run. 👍🏼

Politics

Here are my two cents on politics; I don’t pay much attention to politics. Jesus is my president and king. 😁 I submit to the governing authorities, but if I want to see a change in the world, I know it’s not through politics, it’s through lots of prayer. 😁👏🏼 If you want our world to get better it’s not about who you vote for, it’s about how much you Pray. 😉

Prayers Desperately Needed

Please pray for me.  My former boss is literally trying to press charges against me with the police for e-mailing him too much.  I really didn't though, at least I thought I didn't. :(

This is causing me to wonder about how much I can hear God's direction for my life though, because all along I had thought it was God telling me to write him so much.  But hey, no one can hear God perfectly I'm sure. Before I applied to work at his store I had a vision of warm fuzzy feelings regarding his store. But now I am feeling Very far from warm fuzzies and the feeling is more like terror and shock.  I am Greatly wishing now that I would have never ever worked there.  I wish I could go back and not have ever applied there now.  I can't imagine being arrested just for e-mailing him to much.  I had no idea such a thing was even possible. I seriously only e-mailed like twice a day.  I didn't think it was excessive at all. God help me.

On the up side though, if I was arrested for that, I would have a very interesting prison ministry. :) That's me trying to see the silver lining in every cloud.  But I hope that if I cease any and all e-mails to him the charges will be dropped and this whole crazy situation will be forgotten.

This is interesting though, I actually dated a guy 8 years go who was a prison guard and he said most of the men told him that they would commit a crime on purpose when they got out of prison because they actually wanted to be in prison again, because prison is so much easier then normal life.  I'm sure the possibility of getting beat up wouldn't be more fun, but you wouldn't have to worry about bills in prison, so that actually would be kind of a plus. People in prison also have tons of social time. lol :) We all know that bills stress us out a lot, for sure.  I have such a positive personality I probably could be happy even in prison though, which is hilarious really. :) Not that I would ever intentionally put myself there.  I have always been a law abiding citizen and I always intend to be.  I have never significantly wronged anyone in my life, until now I guess, but I definitely think this guy is over-reacting.  I always try to do what is best for others and I always put others above myself.  I am not a selfish person, at least I don't think so. :)  I am generally the least selfish and most kind and gentle person I have ever known.

This instance reminds me of another time when someone betrayed me and significantly hurt me and scared me.  I felt very hurt by my uncle who I was very close to.  But it was partly because of my fault and having a big mouth.  I have often said too much and it has gotten me in trouble.  I have often been to honest when I probably should not have been so.  My uncle read my journal one summer when I was living with him in Hawaii as a nanny for his kids.  I had written about how he yelled at his kids and how he might as well hit them because he was so verbally abusive towards them.  He got so mad at what he read that he bought a plane ticket for me to go home early. He flipped out on me on the drive to the airport and told me I was scum. I think that was the last and only time someone was this mad at me that they wanted to destroy my life and make me feel horrible.

So now I'm in a similarly scary situation but I'm going to trust God to keep me safe. I will never e-mail this guy who again who I seem to have made so mad at me.  Thank you all for praying for me.  I need lots of prayer right now.

Whenever we have the greatest victories in life, Satan tries to bring us down the most. I currently have an awesome career finally and Satan is greatly trying to mess up my life.  God help me! I trust that God will protect me.  Thank you Jesus for your protection over me and all around me.  Amen. :)

May God bless you all!


Wednesday, November 13, 2019

Life is About Change

Just because something isn't exactly what you want, you can still be grateful for it.  I'm somewhat preaching to myself in this because I'm having to adjust to a new job now and new friends and a new boyfriend.  I love it but I can't help but miss my old job and my old friends and my old life.  But may God send me new friends there that are even better then my old friends. :) And may I appreciate my boyfriend as much as I appreciated my ex husband.  It's hard to not look back at what was though and miss it.  May God give me the ability to appreciate my new things rather then miss the old.

With everything in life there are pros and cons.  When you get more hours at work, you have the hope of having more money, but you have to go through the suffering of working more.  My back was killing me today at work. Please pray for me to have less back pain.  Thanks all!  I have literally never had such bad back pain in my life. :( But I'll get used to it I'm sure.  I'm just not used to standing for 9 hours in a row.  I've really been a spoiled princess for many years now, getting to be a stay at home mom for 7 years, so working is like new territory for me.  It's been awhile since I had to work hard, in the sense of standing a lot.  Other then that my job is pretty easy.  I'm just a cashier at a gas station.  I love the aspect of getting to talk to random people all day and making them smile by saying some random joke or complimenting them.  It's a great job really. I pray I am shinning God's love and light as much as I can there. :)

I suppose God allowed me to get fired at my last job so I can shine my light to more people in a new place.  I guess my light shone enough at my last job with my previous co-workers.  My mission was complete there I suppose.  Just like when someone dies it's like their assignment is up, when God makes a change in your life it's like you are being re-assigned and on a new mission.  Embrace it.  And try to enjoy it. :) Change can be hard but good too.

You can't have something great in life without suffering, generally.  Nothing good in life comes easily. That's always key to remember.

Also, if you don't learn to adapt in life you will be depressed.  Change is always happening in life and we have to learn to roll with the changes.  If you stay stuck in your past, you will be depressed.  If you keep wishing what was still was, you will feel hopeless, because the past is in the past and there isn't much you can do about it. Today it seemed like all the sad events of my past year just hit me all at once.  It was cold and rainy weather today so that didn't help to keep my mood up. :(

But whatever you are holding on to, just let it go and move forward.  Be greatful for what you have now rather then always looking back at what you don't have anymore.  That is really all you can do, if you want to maintain a good mood, which is pretty important. :)

It may not be easy to appreciate a new great thing you have because you are looking back at an old thing, but try to. :)

May God bless you all!  I pray you all will be able to keep your mood happy in this crazy cold weather we are having.  God loves you very much!  Never forget it. :)

God bless!

Tuesday, November 12, 2019

Be Patient

The greatest thing to work on in our character is patience.  Don't force things before their due time.  Let things flow naturally.  All of life has a natural flow and progression.  Like the beauty of a moutain river, when we just let things flow naturally it is much more beautiful.  Also the Bible says, "Those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength."  If you are feeling weak and stressed out maybe it's because you are not waiting on God and rushing things.

Galatians 6:9 "Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." Whatever you sow you Will reap. It might seem like your good deeds go unnoticed or they are unappreciated but God sees, and he WILL reward you.  Don't loose heart. Your reward is coming. For example, I did tons of great things for my last job but did not reap what I sowed there so it seemed worthless, but God rewarded me with a better job so praise God!  You will reap a harvest in some way if you do not give up in doing good, so keep doing good.  You will be glad you did. :)  Doing good can make you weary, but it will boost your confidence the more good that you do and God will reward you. Stay in faith.

Romans 8:25 "If we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience."  This is like the verse that "faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." Even though you don't see what you might want happening, keep hoping and keep believing that it will.  "According to your faith it will be done to you."  If you keep on believing that your dreams will come true, then they will, just wait for it to happen. :)

Psalm 37:7-9 "Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For the evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land." Everyone has people in life who do them wrong.  But don't take revenge on them.  Pray for them.  Forgive them.  And then move on. :)  God will enact vengeance on those who wrong you, don't worry.

Romans 12:12 "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer."  When you go through trials, stay patient.  It helps to remember all that Jesus had to endure for us, so if you ever think you are having a hard day, remember what Jesus did for you.  Your bad day is nothing compared to Jesus dying on the cross, so we really never have anything to complain about. :)
Ephesians 4:2 "With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bear with one another in love." When you are patient you are acting with humility and you can be gentle with others. Those who are in a rush are almost never gentle, think about it.  Focus on patience in all things and you will be a more likeable person.  No one likes someone who is always in a rush.  Just relax.  Chill.  And be patient with other, yourself and God. Then you will have more peace.

Philippians 4:6 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God." Jesus said, "You have not because you ask not." If you want something, pray about it.  God will either say, yes, no or wait.  If he says wait, then learn to be patient and wait on him for his perfect timing. Learn how to wait well. :)
Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." We can be patient and wait on the Lord because we know he has very good plans for us.  If you truly trust God, then you will be better at waiting on him. :)

May God bless you! :)