First of all, this quote is awesome. :)
It's true it is not easy being a woman. The main reason I have always found is simply hormones. Guys have no idea how hard PMS is. Everyone jokes about it, but it really makes you feel like you are in hell for a few days when your hormones are off. :(
Secondly, pregnancy really is a huge deal. It is something I had been dreading and fearing my whole life. It's not as hard as I always thought it would be, praise God, and hopefully the delivery is not as excruciatingly painful as everyone says it is. :) But pregnancy and growing a new life in you certainly is a big deal overall.
The name changing thing is a good point. It is very odd to identify yourself another way when your whole life you have been known as something different.
Leaving family is very hard for sure as well.
It's funny that the guy who said this is quite a bit older. He has probably been married for 50 years or so, so he understands women and all that his wife had to go through. Way to go to this man for his empathy of the life of a woman! :)
Most guys are clueless as to how much being a mom will ask of a woman. They don't realize how annoying morning sickness is and how odd it is to have something kicking you inside all the time. :) And I know discipline and regulating behavior will be an adventure for sure, as I have worked with kids for years.
But one reason why pregnancy and raising children can be so hard on women is when they have to work as well. I worked some during my pregnancy, but not the whole time. Pregnancy does make women a lot more tired. They are growing another life inside of them so obviously it would! Pregnant women need a lot of extra sleep so working while pregnant makes life a lot harder. Secondly, working while raising kids is almost impossible, unless it is something part time. It is hard to be an effective mother and work at the same time.
I have always thought that if I wrote a book someday it would be on the topic of feminism and how greatly it has affected our culture. It has been extremely detrimental to our culture and to women and to families.
It cons itself off as being a liberation for women; setting women free....to....work? But no, it has made a woman's job 10 times harder. Now women not only have to raise kids and maintain a house but work too? That is the man's job. Men work, women raise kids. But feminism says this is what will make women happy, if they can work. But has it? For the most part, no.
One reason women may have a hard time in pregnancy, or resent having children, is if they have to work as well. The way God designed families is that the father works and the mother raises the kids. But these days, that never happens. Both father and mother work and child care workers raise the kids. I know from being one for 14 years that most child care workers do not actually care about the kids they are watching. Therefore, kids are essentially raising themselves and that is why our society is falling apart.
There was a book called "Fatherless America." It talked about how most kids are growing up now in single parent homes and are very tragically affected by not having their dad around.
There was another book that came out after that called "Motherless America" I think. Because now moms are working as well, which means children are orphans for the most part. They are having to fend for themselves. If you have read the book "The Lord of the Flies" you know how much this is not a good thing. Kids left to themselves is anarchy and total chaos. :(
Why do we have so many teen pregnancies now? Why do we have kids getting into drugs starting at the age of 13 or even younger? Why are teens committing suicide left and right? Because the parents are almost non-existent in their kids life. :( It is very sad.
Congrats to those of you parents who are really trying with your kids to interact with them and instill morals into them, but sadly most kids are growing up having to figure things out on their own.
This is why America, our nation that was once the most Christian and moral nation, is falling apart. And Satan knows this. He knows that if he can take out the family, he has taken out our whole society. And he has pretty much succeeded in doing this.
Wake up America. :( Start being real parents to your kids. Stop dropping them off at daycares. Be a parent and instill morals into your kids. It is your job.
If people can't really invest in their kids they shouldn't be having kids, or they shouldn't be able to keep them.
May God enable me to always be there for my kids when they need me and raise them as they should be raised. Amen :)
Comments with a friend on this:
"It all goes back to original deception. God gave men first dominion over the earth and many women cannot accept that fact. Men make good spiritual leaders because they are less easily deceived and less emotional. God is all wise and all loving."
"Yes that is very true. That is why Paul calls women "the weaker partner" because we are, physically and emotionally.
(My mom always said "You can be something to everyone or everything to someone." Which is better? The first is the woman who just works and the other is a woman who raises kids and invests in them as much as she can. :)
A comment from another friend:
"I feel like this is kind of a generalization and does not take into account that some women are AMAZING mothers and are SUCCESSFUL in their careers. Not to mention that some dads are AMAZING stay at home dads. I can see where you are coming from that working just adds to the list of things that are expected from a mother; however, I hope that my spouse will be a true partner in life. I Expect him to help with doing household chores and I take my turn mowing and shoveling snow. I expect him to be equally involved in raising our children. If a family can financially afford to have a mother stay home with the children that is great, but not all families are able to live off of one income. I would much rather teach my children the value of hard work and earning a living than how to take handouts from the government. I have friends who have found wonderful daycares that genuinely care for their children. Both of my parents worked full time, and my sister and I spent time at a babysitter. Our babysitter took us to do fun things all the time and we learned how to interact with other kids. We loved it…not all daycare centers are bad! We also loved spending the evenings and weekends with our parents who would help us with homework, teach us how to ride bikes, cart us to sports practices and church events, and listen to us share about our day at school. In no way did I feel neglected and they were very much involved in our lives. We all worked together as a family…we were expected to help with the cleaning and cooking dinner. Also, I know plenty of amazing stay at home dads. This in no way reflects that they are weak emotionally or physically. It just seems to be what works best for their family. I guess what I am saying I don't think we should be looking at them as "gender roles", but rather how a family unit should share roles and not leave it all on one person."
My response:
"Those are good points. My conclusions in this post are largely based on a book I read, "What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us." I def recommend you read it. In it she says when women are at work they are constantly thinking about their kids, but when they are at home they are constantly thinking about their work. So it is hard to be two people at the same time; a career woman and a mom. Some women can pull it off yes, but it is very hard. Ultimately I think the thing that will make women most fulfilled and happy is to primarily be a mom. Most families choose to have the new cars and the big house over being there for their kids, and that is their choice. But I feel more family time is more important than having more things etc. Every family can afford to live on one income; it just involves cutting things out and learning how to live with less. Yes a dad can be a stay at home dad, but men are meant to work. God created them with a desire to work. They feel most fulfilled when they are providing for their families and usually feel emasculated when the woman is providing instead. Generally women are most happy and fulfilled in raising kids and men are most happy and fulfilled in working. As far as daycares genuinely caring for the kids, they are very good at faking that they care but trust me, when the parents aren't around it's not the same. The facts are, kids will never be raised as well by people who are not related to them. That's just not how it was meant to be and everyone intrinsically knows it; the kids, the child care workers and the parents. Kids need to be with their parents."
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