Do you have any family regrets? Probably the movie that best illustrates how we all deal with family regrets is Legends of the Fall. In that movie, Tristan is not able to save his brother from dying in war. We all have people that we wish we could have saved, either literally or spiritually, and we just have to forgive ourselves that they can't be saved.
That is why Tristan's character is so admirable in the movie, because he genuinely cared for his brother. It ate him up inside that he couldn't save him. Then he becomes quite insane for a time. He lives a wild life. But you think, of course he would do that, given all that he went through. His mom left his family. His brother died. His older brother was angry with him and held a grudge about him possibly hitting on the younger brother's fiancé.
There is nothing that hits your heart as deeply as family and what your family does to you. You start out fully trusting that group of people, but they do things that hurt you and you never fully let it go.
My mom used to say I didn't fully forgive my dad because I often brought up a certain verse in my blogs. "If anyone causes one of these little ones to sin, it would be better if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were drowned." When you are hurt by those you trust the most, it can be very hard to forgive them. You expected more from them. You let your guard down with them. You can't believe you trusted them as much as you did. So then you think the cure is to be a loan ranger like Tristan was for a season. You just want to forget about everyone and everything. Eventually you rejoin your family or begin new with another family. Eventually you believe in family again and you start over.
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