Family Demise

 In most cases of divorce, the man leaves his wife and kids to go off and start a new family. I was watching Hope Floats again the other day. That is what happens in that movie. It usually is because the mom became too common. She stopped making herself look pretty. No matter how much a man loves a woman, he still wants her to look nice for him. The reverse is true too. Men, keep yourself looking hot for your wife. You can do it. :) Maybe the kids stress out the mom so she turns mean and grumpy. I used to always call my ex grumpy bear. He was more the one who got seriously grumpy after kids entered his life. I think he always hated how much he had to work, but that is what men with kids are meant to do. If you don't want to work hard, don't have kids. 

I suppose family break ups also happen when both parents didn't totally want the kids. With my ex, he didn't really want kids. He said he did, just to get me probably, but he didn't seem to really want them. That was always an issue for us. I felt like a single mom the whole time I was married to him. He was just working and sleeping. I had to force him to interact with our girls. He was distraught over them being girls and not boys. What was the icing on the cake was when he told me he was watching porn. It then dawned on me, he was probably neglecting us for hours and just watching porn in his room. How can you keep a marriage going after knowing that? Some can make it through things like that but it's rare. My current bf kind of neglects me and our son, but it's to take care of his grandma. That is a much more noble reason. 

Don't watch porn. It will mess up your marriage. If you want to watch porn, don't desire to be married. That is disrespectful to whoever you are with. It is saying to them that you would rather look at those bodies all day instead of your mate's body. And maybe you would, but that doesn't mean you should. The more you watch porn, the less satisfied you will be with your mate or with the sex life you two have. 

I still have anger at my ex for doing that and keeping it secret for 7 years. I thought he was some great Christian guy. Just know ladies, no matter how good your man thinks he is or says he is, he might not be. Don't be an idiot and blindly trust him. I feel like an idiot for trusting my ex for 7 years. 

When families break up, the adult leaving the kids isn't leaving the kids, he or she is leaving the mate. If the kids have to be ignored in order to ignore the ex, then that has to be done. I don't know how some divorced couples still talk "for the kids." If you don't like them enough to be married to them, don't talk to them. That's just weird. No one should talk to exes. It makes no sense. 

Let the past go and let yourself be happy in your current life. Hopefully your past won't mess up your present.