"A man shall Leave his father and mother and be united to his wife." Most men have a very hard time with this. I think I finally figured out why. The wife has to love her man just as well as his mom did in order for this to become easy for him. If she cooked a lot, the wife should try cooking a lot. If she made him coffee every morning, then you new wife, should make him coffee.
Of course some moms or grandmas refuse to be replaced. They feel in constant competition with the new wife and try to one up her any way she can. Beauty before age or age before beauty? The man is constantly confused as to where his loyalty should be. Does he cling to the past? Or can he trust his new wife enough to let the people in the past go? Is he mentally ready to leave his family of birth and lead a new family?
The reason this verse is even in the Bible is because women can be extremely competitive. A man can lessen the competition by deciding to be loyal to his new wife, as God meant for him to be. He might fear that she will leave him, so then he never leaves to cleave. But then he actually Causes her to leave by not shifting his loyalty.
Unfortunately two women cannot lead or influence a man at the same time. He will go crazy if he tries to let both lead him. Of course a real man should not have to be led by a woman at all. He should be in charge of his own life and his own money. He should be a responsible adult, able to decide for himself what he wants. There are not many real men like this left in the world.
I challenge you to grow up men. Stop letting any woman dictate your life. And women let him be a man. Stop trying to regulate his every move. Let him be free enough to take the lead.
Men are meant to be in the driver's seat, not in the back of the car.
Take the wheel, men.
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