Sexual Problems

Billions of people watch porn and I have figured out a big reason why, sexual problems. Maybe there was sexual abuse in their past that they may not even realize happened, so sex is awkward for them. It is easier to watch porn to get off then ask for sex from their mate. 

When I lost my virginity at age 22 I was literally scared of the male penis. To me it was like a scary one eyed snake. My dad abused me sexually. As an adult I didn't want anything to do with the penis. I wasn't gay. I still liked to make out with hot guys. But that extreme fear kept me from having sex. My bf had to be a bit pushy to get me to have sex with him. It was not rape, but I was pressured a lot into going further. 

I have been with many guys who had sexual issues. It might be easy to think they were gay, but in actuality they were prudes because of sexual insecurity. When you are violated as a child, that makes it a ton harder to really enjoy sex as an adult. You feel awkward, uncomfortable. You think pleasure is a sin. You don't know what to do or what you need sexually. 

One reason is because our psyche can get frozen at the time of the sexual abuse. My dad almost rapped me when I was 6, so a big part of me is still 6 years old. That is why I probably seemed very immature to some of my exes, and my family. 😣😪 This is maybe also why so many men never seem to grow up. Part of them might be frozen at an age when a dramatic thing happened to them. 

How do you grow up? Pray about it. Ask God for wisdom and peace about that situation in your past. Get around more mature people that can help you to mature. I have met many people younger then me who seemed older and helped me to become more mature. 

Don't run away from the little you. You need to become friends with the little you again. Stop being mad at her, or him. Forgive the little you. It was not your fault. Once you can make peace with the younger you, you can have a relatively normal and joy filled life. 

May God help you to mature and grow and to forgive yourself.