Sneaking Around

 Every person who is with a mate sneaks around on them in some way. Some women hide packages they order from their mate. A ton of men watch porn at least once a day, and their woman has no clue. 

With an ex I had, I would pretend to be working late but just go sit in my car at the park. I didn't want to go home yet. I hated going home to him and his son. He yelled at his son a lot. It was the saddest and most stressful living set up I had ever had. 

My first bf and I never snuck around in any way. We gave each other freedom to do anything we wanted to do. It's not really love if you don't let each other have total freedom. Trust your mate. They are most likely smart enough to do the right thing. 

A lot of men and women sneak smoking, or drinking, or other drugs. I still think one of my exes was sneaking doing drugs the whole 7 years I was with him. He certainly acted like he did.

Probably in half of relationships there is a man or a woman on the side. Every time I had a job, there was always some guy I liked at work, even if I had my own man at the time. This is why women should just stay home and raise the kids. But then us women are always worried that our man has a woman on the side at work. My only words of comfort on that are, "If it's meant to be it'll be. Baby just let it be." 😀

In the movie The Waitress she sneaks in hiding money all over the house so she can escape from her verbally abusive husband. I used to say all people are just with someone until someone better comes along. That is a true statement in most relationships. 

As long as you treat your mate with respect, you won't have to worry about them wanting to be with someone else. Affairs happen when a person feels sad, threatened, alone or forgotten within a relationship. They stopped being happy at some point, with their mate and just in general. They think some new life set up will make them happy. Will it? It may or it may not. No life situation is perfect. We all just have to take what God gives us. No one is perfectly happy. My advice to you is stop hoping you can be perfectly happy. In heaven you will be, but never on this earth. It is never going to happen. Sorry if that pops your bubble. :)

The more you feverishly chase happiness, the more it eludes you. Give up the chase. If you are 70% happy now, that should be good enough. 

Decide to love what you have and forget about everything else. And try to never sneak around on your mate. It will only stress you out, and what you are doing probably isn't worth it.