What is a main cause of divorce? Jealousy. Usually, it is the woman who looks at a guy's phone when she can to see who talks to him and what he looks at. With my ex, he would always look at my phone while I was sleeping. He looked at all my e-mails. He looked at my texts. I felt like I couldn't text anyone, because he would skew anything to make it seem bad. I was locked in a cage. The tighter you try to hold someone down, the more they will just want to fly away. Don't get overly jealous with who you are with. It will drive both of you crazy.
Jealousy comes from insecurity. My ex wasn't working anymore. He was looking at porn. My mom had to support us. Of course he would start to think he didn't deserve me, and that I was going to be with someone else. I didn't have anyone else in mind yet, but he got paranoid. He forgot that he deserved me as long as he was working. Instead of finding work, just even at a gas station, he chose to spend all his energy being paranoid about me leaving him. If you aren't constructive in some way, you will do destructive things.
Keep yourself busy doing good things. Then you won't do bad things. Make yourself the person that your mate wants to live with forever. Then you won't be insecure. You know how you need to act and what to do, so just do it. You can't force someone to stay with you out of fear. They have to want to stay with you out of love. If you don't deserve that love, then let them go so they can find real love rather than jealous control and manipulation. Love only grows in freedom.
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