There is a great video titled "Porn, Talk it Out." Check it out, after you read this. 😁 It is a show from Joyce Meyer Ministries. It shows three women talking about how they found out their husbands were watching porn. One was cheated on, and with the other two there was a porn issue. I'm sure the cheater was watching porn too. I would say about 90% of men watch porn regularly. 😣 Why do they? If they have a mate, I'm sure it's mainly because they want more intimacy than they are currently having, but if the couple has kids that makes it difficult to get it on more.
Porn triggers a woman's insecurity because she knows she doesn't look like the women in the porn videos. The only reason they look mostly perfect like they do is because they never had kids. That is why they have to have a career of making porn videos. I feel sorry for them, really. I bet they all wish some guy would have kids with them 👶 so they could have a normal life, but they are probably scared of having kids. Anyways, any of us who have had kids feel that having kids messed up our body, which it did, so that is why it is so hurtful if our man looks at porn. It is like he is saying, "You are not hot anymore after kids. So I want to look at all these hot women instead of you." 😟
I had a sad story with my ex where he told me he was looking at porn. At first I tried to be understanding. The next day though I was freaking out and crying. I said to him, "Why? Was I not freaky enough for you?" I felt betrayed. 😢 I felt like he had cheated on me, and not just once but our entire marriage. That is what it feels like to a woman. It feels the same as literal cheating. Guys may think, "Well I didn't touch anyone so it's not cheating." No, it is. You still looked at her and lusted after her. It's still cheating. If you want her more than the woman you are with, it's cheating and it's wrong. 😠
If you are not satisfied with how your mate meets your sexual needs, then just break up with them, rather than watch porn. You may think, "But I couldn't do that to them, just leave them. That's so mean." Is watching porn and lying to them about it really that much better? No, it's not. 😩 It's better to just break up.
I always felt that way about affairs. Why don't they just break up with the person rather than cheat on them? It seems stupid. The reason is that they still care about their mate and don't want to hurt them by dumping them, but cheating can be worse. They cheat because they want to see what else they could have, but they don't know if it could work out. They are just testing it. They know deep down it probably wouldn't work out long term, but they want to see if it might. That is why they cheat. There are other reasons for cheating.
How do I know? I cheated one time. It was on my ex who was formerly gay. After he told me he used to be gay, I had almost no physical attraction to him. Beyond that, he was infertile. I'm sure that was God cursing him for being gay. 😣 So I hooked up with a guy from work hoping he could get me pregnant, since that boyfriend could not. Was it wrong? Of course. But if he could have been a good sperm donor, it all could have worked out ok. My gay boyfriend and I could have raised his kid. 😂 But no, he made me take a Plan B. So sad.
That could be another cause of porn. Maybe the guy has baby fever, and his woman doesn't want more kids. Rather than discuss that with her, he just watches porn, or he cheats. 😒 If you buy your woman a new car, men, she probably would have another baby with you. There are ways to make things like that happen if you really want it.
Mainly guys just watch porn because all they care about is themselves. 😣😢 Men can be and usually are very selfish. They just want what they want and don't care what anyone else thinks or wants. It is what it is. This is why men are more often addicts than women. Women think about how things will affect others or hurt others. Guys don't think about that as much, and it is very messed up that they don't.
If your man is doing things you don't like, just try to not care. That will make things easier for everyone. 😁 You have to learn to not care. Maybe they are damning themselves to hell by doing what they do, but you can only do so much to try to save them. If they don't care to save themselves then oh well. Just stop feeling responsible for their salvation and focus on keeping yourself saved.
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