Avoid Controlling People

One possible reason for people committing suicide is controlling people that are around them. The Bible says, "Where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom." I have always added to that, "And where the spirit of Satan is, there is control." Most people do not take being dominated by others very well. Some can handle it, or they pretend to handle it. Other people go crazy when others become dominant toward them. 

We all like to be free. We all like to imagine that we are completely free. Women mainly have the issue of trying to dominate other people. I have known tons of dominant women in my lifetime and they have annoyed me a lot. I remember as a little girl thinking I didn't want to grow up to be a woman, because most of the women I knew were so rude. 

I love a show I just listened to with Joyce Meyer and Dr. Cloud. He wrote the book Boundaries, which I highly recommend you all read. He said a woman asked him once, "How do you handle controlling and dominating people?" His response was, "Why would you want to do that?" She said, "They're everywhere!" It is true, controlling and mean people do seem to be everywhere. The key, I have learned, is that you simply have to avoid them. Preserve your own sanity and stay away from toxic people like that. There are plenty of nice, low key people that you can interact with. You don't have to be friends with everyone. If anyone isn't nice to you, don't consider them your friend. You deserve to be treated better than that. 

In the curse that God gave to Eve he said, "Your desire shall be for your husband yet he shall rule over you." In the original language I have heard what that meant was, the woman's desire will be to control her husband, but he will rule over her. So there is an ongoing power struggle in marriage, and really between all men and women. The women want to rule over the men, but the men usually end up ruling over the women. Women are weaker, whether we get pregnant or our hormonal headaches keep us feeling weaker or our periods make us feel weak. All us women know we are weaker and that we have no place to try dominating any man, but so many still try. Women need to let go of the need to control others. 

Is that the cause of so many men wanting to kill themselves? Possibly. Men are 4 times more likely than women to commit suicide. The women in their lives need to let go of wanting to control them a bit. They need to just let their man be happy, within reason. It is good to keep him from addictions, but women need to let go of micromanaging any man. If they feel insecure over being weak, they need to just accept that was God's design for women. We are meant to serve men and be in submission to them. That is a woman's place in society. Until women fully realize that, they will never fully be at peace, and they will drive their men crazy.