Wives are Top Priority

"A man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two shall become one flesh."

A major problem in marriage is when a man puts his mother or grandma above his wife. This is a big cause of many women getting mad at their man. Of course, the wife shouldn't be crazy about it and never let him call his mom, but he shouldn't need to call her several times each day. She needs to learn to let her son go. 

I think moms have such a hard time letting their son be with their woman, because they are jealous. Women can be very competitive. Men think only they get competitive, but no, women can be much more competitive. We all want to be the most loved. We all want to get the most attention. We get very entitled with men. We feel if we do anything for a man, they owe us the whole world and they should be willing to do anything for us. It can be annoying how us women can get. 

I think it's also that women naturally feel very weak. We all want some strong man to take care of us. Wives meet that need in being linked to their husband. Moms might not feel that their man is strong anymore, or their relationship is not strong anymore, so they lean completely on their sons. They might have a failing marriage, so they essentially transition to making their sons their husband. This is called emotional incest. It literally is like they cheat on their husbands with their sons. They might worry their husband will abandon them. A note to any of you women who do that, your husband is more likely to leave if you make your son your husband. 

Most families are messed up in some way. I am sure no one has a proper or normal family dynamic. Moms almost always get too needy with their adult sons, which can emasculate them and make none of their relationships work out. I have struggled with being on the other end of this many times. The mother's marriage needs to be worked on rather than her bonding with her son more, but they think they have no resources to fix it. They refuse to read marriage books or watch sermons online. They just stay broken and need some man to fix their broken life. It could be a pastor, but if they won't go to church, they look to their sons to minister to them. 

When a woman feels this, that a man is emotionally married to his mom, she probably won't stay with him very long. Some women tolerate it. Others know there are plenty of fish in the sea, so they will find a man who is free of his mother's control. 

I asked my step-dad once why this verse only says that men need to leave their father and mother and not women. He said it's because men need to lead their own home. They can't do that until they grow up and emotionally leave their parents. So many homes are not led by the man, but by his mom. That is not how God intended for things to be. 

If you are tired of being treated like a little boy, tell your mom to back off. Grow up and lead your own life. As long as you act immature, your mom will think she needs to help you or lead you. Be mature so you won't be babied anymore. Be a man. Grow up. Take the lead in your own life. You can't stay a little child forever. Or you can, but you probably will hate it. Cut those apron strings off men.